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Feb 18, 2003, 09:35 AM
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My husband and I are married, but have been living separately for 2 yrs and when we lived in our house we lived in separate parts of the house for 4 yrs.
One of our main issues is trust.....I'm not referring to him cheating on me or visa versa. Just plain old "walk your talk" He says one thing then does entirely another thing.......and he is VERY controlling. How can I possibly build trust in him when he is still not doing what he says he will do? Does anyone else have similar situations? Sweetngentle "Blessed are those who can give without remembering. and take without forgetting." Elizabeth Bibesco
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Feb 21, 2003, 01:21 PM
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The only way you can trust him is if he starts doing what he says and is consistent. I am going thru the same thing with my husband. Finally after leaving him his big light bulb went off and he promises it will be different and he will follow thru on what he has said. The problem for me is if I should give him another chance to prove himself. He and I both agree he doesnt deserve it. I dont know what to do. I only know that trust and respect have to be earned.
Heidu
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Feb 21, 2003, 01:55 PM
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My husband, even this minute is trying to get me to take a fall so that I will go into a psy hosp. He hasn't proven himself trust worthy even during the 2 yrs we have lived separately.
This week the night b4 I went to see my T he gave me a letter in an envelope that was sealed and taped. He told me that all it contained was information regarding our finances and how much we could afford to pay for my therapy. I may have a few MI's but I'm not a moron  After he left I opened the letter and read it. Out of a page and a half there were 2 sentences that pertained to the financial aspect of things. The rest of it was about how mentally ill I was and that I needed to be put in a p hosp. After talking with my T she said that I was not in such a state that I wold require hospitilization. Once again...trust? out the window!!!Sweet "It's never too late to be what you might have been". George Eliot
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Feb 21, 2003, 02:05 PM
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I dont balme you for not trusting him. When you love someone you dont lie to them and you support them thru thier problems you dont tell them they are crazy.
I am sorry you have to deal with that. I would trust your T. Has your husband ever been in to talk to your T? Maybe they could set him straight. Heidu
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Feb 21, 2003, 02:08 PM
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My T is trying to get my husband to see the director of the program there for counseling. My husband always finds ways of evading going..not enough money..time...etc. I don't think that he wants to face his own issues very much.
Sweet "It's never too late to be what you might have been". George Eliot
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Feb 21, 2003, 02:10 PM
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I think maybe your right
Heidu
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