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#1
Jun 10, 2008, 03:57 PM
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Here lately, I've been wondering....Do you ever REALLY trust your abuser(s) again? Do you ever believe that they've changed? Can the fear really go away?
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Jun 10, 2008, 04:17 PM
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I don't know if the issue remains with the abuser Normalplease...
We can't change them or even wish too... But we can work on ourselves and the damage done...We can re build our self esteme and learn to understand that sometimes bad things happen that are out of our control,,that we are truely victims and our responsibility is to survive and build from the pain and ashes. Tragic things happen all of the time to all of us. It is the nature of living in a changing world. But the real tragedies are in not recovering,,in not becoming all we can be,,in not loving ourselves enough to push on in the face of some terrible realites...and become better for it... It is hard,,I know,,but the trust you ask about is in ourselves,,in our Faith,,in the true goodness of us as people. I don't know if that makes sense...but letting go is so very important in moving on... With care, Lenny
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Jun 10, 2008, 05:59 PM
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yeah dont try to change them
they wont not even if they say sorry or i want to change or any of that crap (sorry) you gotta move on from them they aint worth your attention... Gotta live your own life just my opinion... i dont believe they can change Blue
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Jun 10, 2008, 09:34 PM
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No, I don't and will not ever trust those who abused me. Never. Never. Never.
It has taken a lifetime to learn to trust my own self, my own ability to know friend from danger, to know that I am worthy of being truly cared for, not deceived and raped. Recovery is about me healing and creating loving relationships -- with myself and those who earn my trust. Those who abused me are not allowed in, ever again. No matter what they do. They did too much harm. No second chances for them. I've paid an unbelievable price for their inhumanity. Never again. Never, ever again. They should be rotting in prison. mtd |
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Jun 10, 2008, 09:52 PM
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no, never
 
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Jun 10, 2008, 09:58 PM
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Jun 10, 2008, 11:33 PM
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Idk the answer. I only know I do not trust them or myself. I hope u find the answers you need.
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