trust

A few months ago I was beginning to think a relationship would be possible, but now I can't look at anyone and even imagine it. I can't imagine that I could ever sustain enough trust with someone. I don't know if I will ever be able to feel I can do it.

I have felt this way since 2003.

I wish I had the anwser to how to trust again, but I dont..
But I know if you dont try at all you will never be able to find a friend or a partner to share your life with or just have fun with. I know being alone all the time stinks.. Maybe start off slow with just making new friend and see were it might go.
As your friendship grows so may your trust....
I wish you well and good luck..

Hi, Blitz! I have the same fear. I told my T this week that I dont even like the word Trust, I call it blind faith because who knows what another is capable off?..but I guess trust starts inside us? that we can trust we will remain loyal to ourselfs no matter what anyone else may do to us? in that way we trust someone and not just attach to, them hoping they won't hurt us? we take our power back? "I trust myself no matter what?"

Hello and elcome to Psych Central.
It is hard to feel trustful at times but if it affecting your life in a manner you are not happy with sometimes it is better to seek the advice of a professional, to help you navigate the feelings you are having toward a more nurturing and positive realism. Many people have been helped with professional therapy to help them learn to live the life they would want to have and be able to persevere in life. I hoep things get better for you soon. Take care and good day. Soidhonia

i thought i found the answer to the trust issue a few years ago.(i didn't) i followed all the good advice, you know the sit down talk about what was ok and not ok put fences etc. nothing works I'm a firm believer that until we, everybody decides that we have just become immoral that it will get worse. in every relationship there are times of weakness and without morals there will always be a predator waiting. until both civil and criminal law reflects this change i worry about our very country you had better believe there is a just god, ask the romans. or just ask the kids living in single parents homes. or the mom standing in line at the grocery why her kids are out off control and she looks like shes beat. (you might like this part) the people who got most by the change in rules are the ones who yelled the most to get them changed.oh do i remember the 60s and 70s revolution everything!!!!! so now its all gone backwards.

Try being a middle-aged woman in this country. Try giving your beautiful body and high sexuality and love and commitment to a man with devotion, and sticking with him when he's out of work and you are the one taking out the loans in your name, and stick with him through his depression, and be the one that does everything while he's out on the road 21days a month driving a truck.

Then try becoming middle-aged and get a chronic illness and lose your job and fine out quick he's out the door -- and doesn't even leave a good-bye note. Just gone and you don't know where.

A man my age can date women 20-30 years younger than he is. A woman my age has a greater chance of being killed by a terrorist than ever having sex again.

When you understand what's it like to be thrown away like garbage because you're a post menopausal female, talk with me again about it.

oh No being a middle age woman is beautiful!. Others make try to make you feel as if your not. I'm almost 45 and couldnt a rats arse what anyone things or does. I'd say your partners need to "dispose" of people says more about him then it does a middle aga woman

I'm with mouse, trust begins inside ourselves. I have found that if you know and trust yourself then you're better able to know how/when to trust another. But the whole thing is vulnerability and taking chances; you can never know something in advance, no matter how well prepared you are, but that's where knowing yourself comes in handy because then you're "there" when you need you :-) again like mouse is saying, you know what's what and have less trouble not caring a rats arse what anyone else thinks or does that's negative toward you.

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A few months ago I was beginning to think a relationship would be possible, but now I can't look at anyone and even imagine it. I can't imagine that I could ever sustain enough trust with someone. I don't know if I will ever be able to feel I can do it.

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TRUST comes from with in...... and IMO it has to be earned to enable us to be able to released it unto the ones we LoVe.

AND - once broken, TRUST may not be able to be given back, but came be offered if earned - with out doubt.

LoVe
Rhapsody - ((( hugs )))

A sticky mess trust issues can be...Honesty from the start is what she once told me....Talk to me about anything is what she once told me...."To forgive is divine" is what she once told me.... Then she up and left for a married man....I don't have the answer to this...I may never trust again, but I do believe that it can exist if what she told me once is in place...............F@tdaddy40

Trust is definitely a crazy thing. But I have made my own mistakes, so what can I say.

Messed up.

Wow! Mouse I never looked at it that way before.
Smilie

A more nurturing and positive realism"I like that way of wording it sheds a new light on it for me thanks.
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