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Old Feb 01, 2022, 03:16 PM
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I'm beginning to resent the HECK out of my husband and his texting. Every single text takes precedence over anything we're doing....dinner, tv, discussion....if his phone dings, which it always does, he texts back. Every. Single. Time. Emails, too.
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I'm beginning to resent the HECK out of my husband and his texting. Every single text takes precedence over anything we're doing....dinner, tv, discussion....if his phone dings, which it always does, he texts back. Every. Single. Time. Emails, too.
Yeah that would get very annoying, I have a friend that does this if it's someone she likes talking to. I know other people that do it too, very annoying and disrespectful.
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Old Feb 09, 2022, 07:59 PM
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I've recently noticed this with my significant other. I regularly take time from work for her doctors appointments. Usually we talk back and forth. Normal stuff but the whole trip was her texting while i was driving. It really set me off. It like why did i do this for you when you can't even really acknowledge. I'm here. For myself painful.
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Old Feb 09, 2022, 11:48 PM
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I've recently noticed this with my significant other. I regularly take time from work for her doctors appointments. Usually we talk back and forth. Normal stuff but the whole trip was her texting while i was driving. It really set me off. It like why did i do this for you when you can't even really acknowledge. I'm here. For myself painful.
Did you let her know that her ignoring you bothered you? I don't blame you for being upset. You took work off to do her a favor. The way she texted the whole trip while you drove, was really disrespectful of her.
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Old Feb 10, 2022, 08:44 AM
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I completely agree, it is incredibly rude!

I cant stand when people use their phones at the dinner table or when youre spending time with someone unless theres a good reason.

My 10 year old nephew gets given his mums phone at the dinner table and he spends the whole time playing games on it and not talking to anyone. How is he going to learn how to converse??
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Old Feb 10, 2022, 08:45 AM
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I've recently noticed this with my significant other. I regularly take time from work for her doctors appointments. Usually we talk back and forth. Normal stuff but the whole trip was her texting while i was driving. It really set me off. It like why did i do this for you when you can't even really acknowledge. I'm here. For myself painful.
I agree with @Motts
Did you discuss this with her?
I think I would be pretty annoyed if I were you.
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Old Feb 10, 2022, 08:46 AM
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I'm beginning to resent the HECK out of my husband and his texting. Every single text takes precedence over anything we're doing....dinner, tv, discussion....if his phone dings, which it always does, he texts back. Every. Single. Time. Emails, too.
Im so sorry, have you discussed this with him @mary896 ? It might be a good idea to if you havent already.
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Old Feb 12, 2022, 09:51 PM
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I've recently noticed this with my significant other. I regularly take time from work for her doctors appointments. Usually we talk back and forth. Normal stuff but the whole trip was her texting while i was driving. It really set me off. It like why did i do this for you when you can't even really acknowledge. I'm here. For myself painful.
Yeah I know that feeling, that's how I feel with a friend when we hang out. There have been many times where I've wondered why we were hanging out if she was so occupied with her phone, almost pointless to hang out by that point so I know exactly where you're coming from.
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Old Feb 12, 2022, 09:51 PM
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Did you let her know that her ignoring you bothered you? I don't blame you for being upset. You took work off to do her a favor. The way she texted the whole trip while you drove, was really disrespectful of her.
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Old Feb 12, 2022, 09:53 PM
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I completely agree, it is incredibly rude!

I cant stand when people use their phones at the dinner table or when youre spending time with someone unless theres a good reason.

My 10 year old nephew gets given his mums phone at the dinner table and he spends the whole time playing games on it and not talking to anyone. How is he going to learn how to converse??
Yeah more and more kids are playing on phones and tablets nowadays rather than socializing. The most I've seen kids do is socialize with other kids while on their phones and maybe even show off whatever it is they're playing.
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I agree with @Motts
Did you discuss this with her?
I think I would be pretty annoyed if I were you.
Yeah I would be too.
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Old Feb 12, 2022, 09:54 PM
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Im so sorry, have you discussed this with him @mary896 ? It might be a good idea to if you havent already.
I agree with this since it's so disrespectful to put texting above everything else if it's not an emergency.
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Old Feb 14, 2022, 06:03 PM
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Did you let her know that her ignoring you bothered you? I don't blame you for being upset. You took work off to do her a favor. The way she texted the whole trip while you drove, was really disrespectful of her.
I agree... very disrespectful of her.
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Old Feb 14, 2022, 06:52 PM
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I think this phone technology has changed how people interact. It makes people too accessible and has changed rules about not bothering people during dinner or work or when they are out with friends or family. It puts people pretty much “on call” 24 hours every day

Yes! It’s rude to be with someone and at the same time texting others. And I know people text and talk while driving too. It can be very addictive where people use it way more than they should.
Yes, even when they are driving and you can notice quickly by their way to drive that they are typing on their phones. Stupidity won’t never reach the bottom.
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Old Feb 14, 2022, 07:05 PM
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Would you consider it rude to always be on your phone while with someone else? I think constantly being on your phone sends a message that you don't care about the other person's company. I know a lot of people who would agree that it's rude but I also know some that see no problem with it and if someone doesn't like the fact that they're on the phone then oh well. It's even worse when someone almost never responds to your messages but then that same person responds to other people's messages immediately.

In a way, it shows that they don't really care about you. They don't see you as valuable, if anything they see you as disposable and I question how close someone really feels if they do this all the time. People are allowed to talk to whoever they want, no one can control someone else but at the same time it shows a lack of respect for the other person's time. I've been with people who constantly text on their phones to the point where I'm basically ignored, I start thinking what's the point of hanging out if they're going to text constantly.

They may as well just go hang out with whoever they're texting, clearly they don't want you there and it shows that they may not feel close to you. It's one thing to reply to a message here and there every so often, but to constantly be on your phone to the point of ignoring someone who you're with is just rude in my opinion. When this occurs, I actually distance myself from those who do this all the time. I don't develop hatred towards them, but I do come to the conclusion that they don't really value my time as much as someone else who they'd rather be with.

At times it can get so bad that it may appear that the person only hangs out with you when they have no other better options and you're more of a back up or last resort to them. I don't get mad at them but I do pull away. Again, people can hang out with whoever they want. They can talk to whoever they want as well. No one can control who you talk to, but it can give off a subtle message that they really don't care to be with you. I wouldn't consider these people anything more than casual friends at best and may not even be considered that.
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Old Feb 14, 2022, 07:10 PM
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Old Feb 14, 2022, 07:35 PM
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I was at my parents’ home for a family meeting. I saw my sister-in-law on her table, my brother-in-law on his phone, my older niece on her tablet, my partner also showing stuff from his phone. My dad with the TV loud.
I thought, what the f@ck! I go off. I don’t want this.

I’m also a person who doesn’t belong to the phones era. So, I guess I must be outdated. Indeed, I use the phone only for short messages with people I’m gonna meet or see soon, emergency facts, to keep communication with people I met from other countries and mainly for what I always love to do, listening to the radio. Now, podcasts. Write down the shopping list. Look for a location.
I can’t deny the advantages of having a big amount of information in hand wherever you are, but out of that, I would never look at the phone when I’m interacting with a person. I want to be focussed on this event.
I silence my phone at the medical center, meetings of work, lectures. I consider a lack of respect to let your phone sounds in some kind of places.

I still remember when I was in a vet clinic for an emergency with my dog and another client’s phone’s sounds ( not a normal sound) the sound of guns shooting. I got so scared. I was about to slap his f@acking face.

I don’t think all people who do these kinds of things are disrespectful. Many they are but I think some of them are only distract.

Edit: I forgot to tell that I also avoid to chat when I am online, with more than one person online. If ever happen that possibility, I say to one of the persons that I will chat with him/her later. Neither I feel uncomfortable nor I see it respectful.
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Old Feb 14, 2022, 09:12 PM
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I agree... very disrespectful of her.
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Old Feb 14, 2022, 09:14 PM
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Yes, even when they are driving and you can notice quickly by their way to drive that they are typing on their phones. Stupidity won’t never reach the bottom.
Yep no matter how dangerous texting and driving is, people will always do it.
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Old Feb 14, 2022, 09:16 PM
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As always, a new interesting thread by you. 😀
It’s a relief that there are still people like you and the other users who see things as I do.
Thank you, and I like coming here to have conversations with like minded people without judgment.
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Old Feb 14, 2022, 09:21 PM
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I was at my parents’ home for a family meeting. I saw my sister-in-law on her table, my brother-in-law on his phone, my older niece on her tablet, my partner also showing stuff from his phone. My dad with the TV loud.
I thought, what the f@ck! I go off. I don’t want this.

I’m also a person who doesn’t belong to the phones era. So, I guess I must be outdated. Indeed, I use the phone only for short messages with people I’m gonna meet or see soon, emergency facts, to keep communication with people I met from other countries and mainly for what I always love to do, listening to the radio. Now, podcasts. Write down the shopping list. Look for a location.
I can’t deny the advantages of having a big amount of information in hand wherever you are, but out of that, I would never look at the phone when I’m interacting with a person. I want to be focussed on this event.
I silence my phone at the medical center, meetings of work, lectures. I consider a lack of respect to let your phone sounds in some kind of places.

I still remember when I was in a vet clinic for an emergency with my dog and another client’s phone’s sounds ( not a normal sound) the sound of guns shooting. I got so scared. I was about to slap his f@acking face.

I don’t think all people who do these kinds of things are disrespectful. Many they are but I think some of them are only distract.

Edit: I forgot to tell that I also avoid to chat when I am online, with more than one person online. If ever happen that possibility, I say to one of the persons that I will chat with him/her later. Neither I feel uncomfortable nor I see it respectful.
Yeah it’s annoying when people are constantly on their phones, I grew up without a phone as well. I agree some people can be disrespectful of other people’s time, they’re too focused on themselves.
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Old Feb 14, 2022, 09:37 PM
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Yeah it’s annoying when people are constantly on their phones, I grew up without a phone as well. I agree some people can be disrespectful of other people’s time, they’re too focused on themselves.
Yes, it seems as they are too much focussed on themselves. They like receive a like or an instant reply, when putting the pics and texts Facebook or wherever to show your life is so marvellous when you are not giving a $hit about the people who are there, face to face with you, enjoying your spouse, kids or friends.

I see it as a matter of priorities. You can put all these pics when you have a free-time. Meanwhile enjoy the situation.
What business (Facebook, Instagram, google and so on and on and on) wants? Make itself a priority for you. You attention along all the time. But you have a brain, use it or you will lose it.
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Old Feb 14, 2022, 09:49 PM
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This topic is so interesting!
I think it’s at the top of the topic we are facing now in our societies. It has so many to do with manipulation, individual freedom, education to know how to face to it. So many factors.
Who pulls the strings!
I do really feel pity when I see someone crossing the road or walking on the street writing on the phone. I swear you. I feel pity.
I see it disrespectful. Many times some people was about to stamp on my doggies ( I was aware so I didn’t allow it) but I feel pity because I think their life must be so empty. They are walking in a street with people, trees, fresh air and they are missing all of it.
Not mention that if someone do something to a doggie of mine, at least their phone will go to floor.
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Old Feb 15, 2022, 05:19 AM
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Yes, it seems as they are too much focussed on themselves. They like receive a like or an instant reply, when putting the pics and texts Facebook or wherever to show your life is so marvellous when you are not giving a $hit about the people who are there, face to face with you, enjoying your spouse, kids or friends.

I see it as a matter of priorities. You can put all these pics when you have a free-time. Meanwhile enjoy the situation.
What business (Facebook, Instagram, google and so on and on and on) wants? Make itself a priority for you. You attention along all the time. But you have a brain, use it or you will lose it.
Yep I agree, social media should be used during free time, not while interacting with others.
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Old Feb 16, 2022, 07:07 PM
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That’s good, that's how it should be. I was born and raised during a time when there were no cellphones. Didn’t get my first cell phone until I was 16 and it was an old flip phone. I loved flip phones and didn’t get an iPhone until 2014, I was basically coerced into getting one.
My first little phone was a Verizon coup. The next two were sliders. Now I have a stupid Google pixel 3. It's frustrating and I don't care for it.
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