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I am 19, and there is a boy about my age in my college class who I have had a big crush on since we started about 3 weeks ago.
The problem is that he is very, very attractive; I always find myself looking at him every time I see him, and it is very hard to keep my eyes off him. And it is very noticeable that all other girls react the same way around him; there are constantly girls hitting on him, trying their best to sit next to him, asking him on dates, inviting him to their parties and things like that. And he seems really used to all those approaches as well, so this must have happened to him for a pretty long time. I really want to approach him, but I am not sure how to handle a guy like him, or what I would expect from him. Do you know what I can do here? |
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Just be you.
My husband was that guy. Gorgeous. Athletic build. Not a man I would have normally even been attracted to because I thought he was out of my league. But little did I know he thought I was out of his league and it took several months before he finally got the nerve to ask me out. He was turned off by the flirting and games he got from so many women. He just liked my maturity and kindness. He just liked me being me. We were married 34 years before he passed away. Just be yourself. Be kind. If that’s who he’s looking for, he’ll notice. If that’s not who he’s looking for, it’s his loss. |
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#3
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Agree 100% with Artley, just be you. You want him to notice YOU, not someone else you're pretending to be. He'll connect with you in some way or he won't. Maybe you won't like him so much once you get to know him. What if he's not very pretty on the inside, kwim?
And definitely keep yourself from trying too hard. He's probably use to girls trying to hard and his brain blanks when approached that way- even if he enjoys the attention. Keep it casual, just friendly and human, and see what happens. ![]() |
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My brother and one of my nephews stand out because of their looks. But that’s just looks. What’s inside matters more. They are great people and good husbands to their wives. Get to know this guy. He might be a wonderful person who will care about more important things than looks or he might not be even worth it. Focus on his personality rather than looks.
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Don’t try to hard to chase him. Most guys like a chase. Are you funny? Then make a joke & make him laugh. Compliment him on something that you know he’s proud of like his clothes, personality, etc..
Try friending him on FB & Instagram & try to find common interests to talk about. If you two end up liking the same music, then you’ll have something to talk about for example. If he’s smart, then ask him for help with homework. Just be genuine & kind. I agree with everything everyone else already said. |
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