Why did all my new friends start ignoring me? Are they jealous?

lol! I hesr you! Seriously, I’m sure thst I’ll just snap & let the next rude selffish person know exactly hiw I feel, lol!

I already blockrd & deleted the phonies who pretended to like my pics to Spain. Obviously they were all jealous of me as I never heard from them again.

I actually wrote something similar on here a while back about feeling like I wanted to give up on developing friendships, like you I had ghosting and with no apparent reason by someone I was fond of - I still don’t know why.

Sometimes taking the pressure off can help, in my case having some alone time, keeping social through acquaintances and activities.

I think close friendships, true ones are rare, it takes time to find those gems, if you do then treasure them, that’s my philosophy anyway.

You’ve done the right thing for your self esteem walking away from fake friends.

Here’s my first attempt to do multiple quotes on a tiny screen, lol. Yeah I know women can drop other women friends for men. If that was the reason I wonder was it just me or her other friends.

Yeah people seem to call transactional friends actual friends, when it’s more like acquaintances. It keeps happening to me too, even online. People I used to interact with a lot and considered them friends suddenly stopped “talking” to me! Or they unloaded heavy stuff on me then disappeared! And in some cases these people claimed to have had similar experiences to mine, THEN ghost me after saying they would never treat me that way!!!! Yeah right. They are sorry that happened to me, it sucks, etc. What kind of person does that?!

I often wonder if Covid played a role. Not saying this behavior is excused but maybe the last 3 years made people even weirder than they already were. In other words, it brought out the worst in people. I posted about it in a similar thread.

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Yeah I can relate, except I have no acquaintances to do things with. And I’m not sure that would be a comfort, just more of the same superficial stuff. Right now I talk to no one except one person.

I did read the US has a loneliness epidemic, exacerbated by Covid. People don’t want to even admit to being lonely as there’s a stigma to it, like a lot of things in this shallow, godforsaken country.

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Sorry to hear that. Can you provide the link to your thread please? I’d like to read it.

It’s nice to know it’s not just me. I already met 3 wimen & only one contacted me back. I’ll be meeting two this week & possibly 3 or 4 more in a few weeks when they’re available.

This is more work than fun! I have yet to feel a true connection with anyone yet.

I really might just give up soon if things don’t work out. It’s to stressful & annoying to have to do most if the contacting & most of the intiating.

Wow, you & I have had very similar experiences! I’ve been contacted by men too online when I placed afs out. Perverts mostly, lol. And if course fake nice guy friend ls who were only interested in sex it seemed like, ugh, So male friends are permanently off my list, lol.

I don’t think that COVID is the issue. People have always been fickle & flaky like thus! Inthinknthat once people don’t need you anymore, they toss you aside as if you were nothing but trash to them.

They lie of course to keep you around. That sucks why they said they’d never do thst to you then leave. It’s like a guy saying he loves you or thst he wants to marry you just so he can trick you into having sex with him, lol 😆 Not quite, but it’s like that in a way.

Be careful next time & pay attention to actions, not words. If they never ask about you, then that is a huge red flag. So is flakiness. And having a lot of issues with people usually that is never their fault.

You & I need to start setting stronger boundaries it derms like. We both tolerated to much b.s for to long. Nice people often get used & abused if they’re to nice & tolerant.

I wish that we lived nearby so that we could be friends in real life, but you probably don’t live in Ca. lol.

@jesyka

Friendship anxieties

Here’s the link to my thread, I noticed you left me a hug so I think you’ve read at least the beginning of it although I did add to it as time went on.

Hi, thanks. It’s good to know that I’m not alone here.

What does afs mean?

I don’t mean Covid is the reason but I believe it exacerbated existing flakiness!

I have paid attention to actions and still got burned. And just cause someone asks about me didn’t mean it was sincere. It was out of politeness or they weren’t accepting of what I felt about events or minimized things. I had one former “friend” say I “just have to believe everything will work out”. I’m sure it was to end an uncomfortable conversation and no true friend would do that. Through thick and thin as the saying goes. I’m sick of fair weather friends and toxic positivity too.

Still I can’t be someone I’m not. I do have boundaries I didn’t before but won’t stop being kind. There is enough meanness out there.

I am telling a Girl Scout I’ve been writing to that if it’s okay if she’s not into writing anymore. It took her over a year to write back so I can’t be much of a priority. But I enjoy it enough to at least see if she prefers texting like many young people do. I also said I hope to get a reply sooner than a year and to let me know either way…she wants to continue or not.



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You are not. If it wasn’t for this site and these threads I would have thought it was just me.

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