Am I being lied to? This sounds weird.

I understand that. The point of my post was that she didn’t need to go so far to maybe lie about now working EVERY single weekend hust to avoid me! That’s hurtful & it makes me feel as if she’s no longer trustworthy. What else is she willing to lie about now? That’s a big one for me!

She can simply say she needs space & I’d respect that. It’s ridiculous to insult my intelligence with something that is probably a lie. I doubt that her or anyone else would be OK with being lied to like that. But I’m supposed to just accept it? OK, whatever.

I don’t call, text, email or ask her to go out all the time btw I just ask her to go out twice a month tops. I understood when she said she wanted to spend time with her husband or visit her sister. I didn’t bug her to hang out with me. I have a husband & other friends

She should’ve been honest with me. I’m not going to contact her period now. I’ll let her contact me first whenever she feels like she is ready to hang out again.

As I said before, she likes the fact that I het her out of the house. Now I’m being ignored, weird! People are weird! She should ask for space instead of maybe lying to me. I’m not bugging her. Oh, she doesn’t have kids btw.

She did sat something a bit odd to me a few time. She sais she only see’s me & her sister usually now & thar she see’s me more than her own sister as she travels with her husband a lot.

I sometimes worry that I triggered her with my comments about her eating habits too. I need to remember to never ever mention any possible triggers again.

I see. She can handle loud noisy crowds well it seems like. These horrible things happened years ago btw. I have a feeling that something else is going on now.

Asking her to go out out twice a month (it’s every other weekend) is a lot. If she has other friends, husband, other family and demanding job, every other weekend is too often. Yes it would be better if she spoke up about it but maybe she thinks it’s self explanatory.

You do seem to struggle with friendships a lot. It’s not easy. And I am not sure what’s the true problem is here.

Giving her space is a good idea

There's nothing wrong with managing expectations with your friends by speaking up about your concerns. If she's a genuine friend (who is interested in a mutual friendship) she'd make more effort with you when you two hang out.

Her being on her phone while out with you would have been a deal breaker for me: that's just plain rude and disrespectful (unless it was an emergency, than that's acceptable).

At the end of the day, if it really bothers you, just speak up and hope she understands. Her response will tell you where you stand with her friendship-wise. If she gaslights you, she was never really a 'friend' but just someone you saw occasionally.

If you have to chase after people to be your friend, they aren't really friends. Friendship is a two-way street.

Different people express things in different ways.You like a straightforward way and some like to express in a roundabout way like your friend is doing.Donot take it as an insult. See it as her way of telling you she is not available. You are hurting yourself more by analyzing what other's true intentions are.