[MuddyBoots]

They keep drunk dialing me saying they're a psychopath that would be in prison for some pretty violent things if they weren't stoned all the time (sometimes saying I'm just like them and insinuating I should quit all my bipolar meds and go back to flower and powder...so I would be enticed to move in with them to make their financial life easier).

They have been in jail, multiple times.

They do not plan for anything and probably only made it this far based on luck alone (it is not a good existence for that matter).

Constantly breaking the law (won't get into specifics here because when I said I did the most minor thing once they do on a regular basis, someone on here flipped their **** and I don't want to trigger anyone too badly right now).

Super aggressive. Violent. In fights constantly since they were a wee little one.

Does not respect boundaries one bit.

Only thinks of himself, and thinks of himself as the shyt. Everyone else is just shyt.

Never shows guilt. Says all emotions are bad and depression is for pussies. "When I get depressed, I just get over it."

Lies to make himself look better, for raises and bonuses, to get out of paying people...
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How do you deal with someone like this? How do you heal from someone like this if they were violent towards you and crossed your boundaries on a daily basis and did a lot of unforgivable things?

I blocked their phone number last week, but they found me on facebook a few days ago and bombed my messages. First with "hey sweetheart!" ending with "I hope u die with ur fingers down your throat" when I didn't respond.

[Molinit]

How do you deal with them? By blocking them EVERYWHERE so they cannot message you. If they make a new identity and message you, block that one. That's all you can do.

Whether they have a PD or not is really not important. Only their doctor can diagnose them.

[divine1966]

They are not safe to be around regardless of the diagnosis. If you keep your Facebook account fully private, not sure how they contact you. But if they do, just block them. Honestly some people are just nasty. Not every inappropriate behaviors are due to PD

[MuddyBoots]

Is it worth getting the police involved? Thankfully they don't do this that often, but it's like they think "I'm bored. Gonna screw with Muddy tonight." Their house is pretty much a drug den. I have video of them

Possible trigger:

treating animals like shyt too

so revenge is on my mind, but I know revenge isn't the answer.

Just curious about the pd thing because I'm closely related to them and I have bpd so I was thinking there could be a genetic link or maybe growing up around them/the environment they created caused it or both? I know it doesn't really matter; I'm just curious (they wouldn't see a doc if their life depended on it haha)

How do you set your facebook account to private? I just created it like a week ago to see if anyone I know wanted to be a vocalist for my band.

[mote.of.soul]

Distance yourself from him/them. They're what's wrong in the world
It's not being judgemental it's correct. Don't be sucked in and interested in them. Don't be lured in. Be stronger than them Muddy and close the door. You'll benefit from doing so. That's it.

[MuddyBoots]

I've been trying for awhile now. Learning as I go. Didn't really get a pamphlet.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by MuddyBoots

I've been trying for awhile now. Learning as I go. Didn't really get a pamphlet.

No one has a pamphlet on anything. We are just trying to help because you asked

[MuddyBoots]

I moved out, then I blocked them, now I know I have to hide behind every ****ing bush I see apparently. It’s okay. Been jumpy looking out for my ex now I can go totally off grid and no one will ever hear from me again.
I know I’m stupid enough to probably be a bother to everyone. But I’m not so stupid that I need to read “mountains get higher as you go up” three times.
And pamphlets exist. People definitely have them haha. I have one on the various forms of hepatitis but that ain’t helping me here

Y’all are acting like I’m in active danger. I’m not. They’re over an hour away and don’t know where I am.

[mote.of.soul]

Well, it's possible for them to manipulate an address out of you Muddy, things like that. Anyway, glad you're not in immanent danger at least. Keep going, keep progressing up the hill, the view will be wonderful when you get there. We believe in you.🙏

[eskielover]

Block, block, block & don't get caught up in their drama cause it can be addicting.
Blocking so they can't get to you is the best revenge

[Tart Cherry Jam]

There is some research out about similarities between ASPD and BPD. Apparently, there is gender bias: males get dx'd with ASPD and females get dx'd with BPD. You may want to read up on that. Everything you are describing is consistent with ASPD but of course we cannot dx.

[Fuzzybear]

Their drama can be addicting. I agree I also think block them. They will find someone else to play with, very soon.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Tart Cherry Jam

There is some research out about similarities between ASPD and BPD. Apparently, there is gender bias: males get dx'd with ASPD and females get dx'd with BPD. You may want to read up on that. Everything you are describing is consistent with ASPD but of course we cannot dx.

Sounds like that ''research'' is old, and wrong. imho. I haven't read it though. Could be some females are mis diagnosed with BPD who actually have ASPD. But they are completely different. Many treatment providers, at least in more enlightened areas think BPD is ''treatable''.... idk about ASPD. I know little about it. Except being on the receiving end of someone with it. All about lies.

Please don't tell me I'm all wrong. I haven't edited this post so its probably full of ''inconsistencies''....

It's just my opinion.

[Tart Cherry Jam]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

Could be some females are mis diagnosed with BPD who actually have ASPD.

Yes, I have read that, but it was a long time ago, circa 2009.