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Old Yesterday, 08:33 AM
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I dated my boyfriend for a year.(he is 30,im 24)Things were good,he was very supportive and kind to me.But after I met his mom,he slowly started pulling away.Im naturally shy with new people and I think she misintrepeted my quietness.During almost 10-minute meeting she just asked about my job and that is all.She even left without saying goodbye and the flowers I gave her.

After that situation he became distant.He said that he felt like a zombie and was emotionally drained.I noticed he started following one Instagram model and liked her photos.I would have said nothing,but he always asserted that girls shouldn’t be like this on social media and all those speeches about how being modest is important for girls.To be honest,this made me feel disrespected.When I brought this up without aggression by asking why he did that,he`d unfollow her,no problem.But emotionally,he kept checking out despite my attempts to solve problems and be together.

At that moment of life,I was struggling with my job and health issues,but despite that,i cared about my boyfriend.Eventually,I offered to break up and he agreed with saying “I hope we wouldn’t regret”.To be honest,I didn’t want to end things,but I felt like I was the only one holding on this relationship and I was just a burden for him.

Later,he messaged me and I gave him another chance,hoping he had realized something.But our conversations never felt real again.Once he thanked me as I tolerated him well during this crisis and he is just like that,but on the next day he said that I was always blaming him,even though I was only expressing hurt without attacking.Then I left him in peace for a week.

He texted me again and our last conversation ended with him writing “OK” in all caps when I said that I tried to understand him and then went silent without answers.I really have no clue if I did something wrong.Is this the end or a pause?I guess this thing with crisis was because of his mum`s reaction,but he never explained to me even though I asked about that and said that Im ready to save this relationship.

On social media posts of his friends,they are hanging out together and he seems fine while im left without any answers.Its been a week of no contact and then he sent " . " (yes,just a dot),why?
I am so confused.What is my mistake?

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Old Yesterday, 10:44 AM
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Welcome to MSF @heliii - I am sorry that your boyfriend and his family are not warm and friendly to you. You sound like you are trying to avoid hostility but they seem to not be candid about how they feel.

Feel free to also intrduce yourself in the New Member Forums here on MSF https://mysupportforums.org/

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