[imyorgirl]

my answer is NO..lol

[Perna]

It's not that easy. Depends on how much you have "invested" in the other person and care about them. You have to get that back or more to fill that hole before you can move forward. A time of grieving is usually necessary.

It depends on the person I would find it difficult giving the person I am with at the moment as they are my world.

[gimmeice]

Yeah I'm gonna have to agree with everybody else it definately depends on the person and where you are in life at the time.

[StarPonysMama]

A BROAD question.

There have been times in my life when I could drop it, spin the tires, be out of sight and never look back.

Then there are times when I've had to give up and move on when I didn't want to.

Then there have been times when I knew my life without that person would not be the same and I find it incredibly hard to move on.

Depends on the person, the situation, the timing, the environment, the stage you're at in your life. Many factors not just one.

[anabel42]

Yes, it all depends. But yes, for me, it is really hard to move on when it comes to relationships ending. But then it's been less than a month--how long should it take?

[nightbird]

it has usually been difficult for me to move on too.

i think if you re the one who chooses to seperate, and let go, it is easier.

i am in a situation where i want to let go and move on, because we are not compatable, but it is so hard after 10 years.

we have to make sure we both land on our feet and make it through this - since it's a later time in our life we are at now, and there are worries about how the other will be without the 'other' -

thinking about it makes me cry but i know, in another year, i will be someplace on my own, where i want to be, near my loved ones (i'm far away now) and healthier alone than unhealthy in a relationship that makes me feel bad about myself, you know?

peace,
night

[seeker1950]

imy and nightbird..
It has always been hard for me to move on. So much so, that I no longer try to attach myself to anyone. I'm 4 years since my last attempt at a romantic relationship, and 11 years divorced.
It really does have to do with who is doing the rejecting, and who is the "rejectee."
When I've been really sad and hurt, I"ve had to work like hell to get over it...too much so for sure. But it does get better, and, as they say, life is short, and life goes on. At times though, I've wished there was a pill that would take the feelings of hurt and rejection away. There is none. It just takes time.
Love
Patty

[nightbird]

((Patty))

I hear you.

I think knowing that you may have to drop a relationship that is not good for you is solid and sound. (rejecting a bad mate is smart, I think, and an acquired ability)

To avoid relationships because they can be painful is not best for our need for love and companionship though.

Sometimes, we have to take risks. They work out or they don't.

If we are in control of ourselves, and clearly make better choices and decisions, and I don't mean in the heat of the moments, but in clarity, overall, we don't have to fear love.

Love is all around us ... oh no, I sound like a song, lol.

True though, so, hopefully, we learn enough about ourselves when we are alone that we do not project our thoughts and feelings on others - we see them for who they are - not in a deluded state - as well as ourselves with them.

Will it always work out, even the best matched?

No. But, it can be worth trying. It's the abusers and users and people who have issues way over our abilities to handle that need to be deleted from our list of possibilities.

Peace and Love,
Nightbird