[kisha69]

ok last satyrday it was like a drunken nite and i was wid some mates ho were older than me! there is a guy who is 23 who i liked and he likes me! we ended up havin sex but the problem is now i am pregnant and we aint talkin shall i tell him i am pregnant with his kid? pls help me!

[mj14]

kisha, how do you know you are pregnant? It doesn't seem like long enough since you had sex to know for sure. I would not say anything to this man until you have been to a doctor and confirmed your pregnancy.

I so also think you should probably think long and hard about whether it's good for you to be having drunken nights with people in their 20's. I don't know what the law is in the UK, but here in the states, the night you descibed broke several laws. In legal issues aside, there is a big difference in maturity and life experience from 16 to 23, and it's probably best to go through those years with others closer to you own age.

mj

[kisha69]

thanxs well u c i have done a test and it came out positive but u know and my period is late aswell! do u think i should tell him? or shall i jsut leave it? just that if i am 4 deffinet then i want him 2 pay 4 the abortion or if i keep the kid 2 help me look after him or her!

[misty]

Stress can cause you to be late and tests are not always right. I would wait atleast a month then do the test again and then if it is positive and you know for sure he is the father then I say go for it. He needs to be responsible at least financially if nothing else. Just my opinion.
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[Wants2Fly]

Kisha -- I agree with those who think you need more than one test before moving ahead with these other, very serious decisions. I should think that you need to consult a physician and not rely solely on a drug-store kit.

Second, I think that it would be helpful for you to see a counselor to help you make these decisions about disclosure and raising a child, possibly without a mate and possibly with unreliable income. I don't think I can possibly offer any opinions about what you should/shouldn't do on the basis of the few sentences you write here. I truly believe that someone who has time to talk with you about this situation, time to understand your values, goals, and life situation, will be able to help you think it through for yourself. Because, in the end, it's not what I think you should do that matters but what Kisha decides she should do. Please fine a counseling service that can help you right away.

My prayers are with you.

[LadyDragus]

I would go to some where like Planned parenthood, or a place like that, and see if you can get some counseling and a Blood pregency test to see, if you are pregnant..

and do not make any rash decsions because of your age.. Think everything through frist.. ok

[Thelema]

If you are pregnant to the point that your urine tested positive, it is not likely that the father is someone with whom you had sex only once one week ago.....

[nothemama8]

Kisha, at 1 weeks time the 23 yr.old can't be the one who got you pregnant, if you go to a clinic they can test you and it might be stress related. If not you need to think back to who you had sex with and maybe slow down.

[jetblackaura]

Well in the UK that's perfectly legal. but you need to think about whether you are mature enough to be going with this 23 year old and if it would be a good relationship for the baby(if you're pregnant) i disagree quite strongly with babies being brough up in environments where the parents aren't in a stable relationship and could be arguing and fighting alot.

If this man can be trusted to stay faithful to you and you think you are mature enough to continue the relationship then i don't see a problem with it.(Athough i'm slightly biased since i'm 17 and y boyfriend is 26). My advice is that if you are both in love and want the relationship to work, it will. You might get alot of discouragement and fun made about you from other people, because in my experience it has been quite bad for my boyfriend and I,but as i have already said if you are ready to be in a stable relationship then it shouldn't matter too much what other people think.

Uhm that's my 2 cents, you should probably get some professional advice because should you be pregnant, there are ALOT of things to think about financially and timewise when having a child.

Have you had sex with someone else previously? Sounds like it might be someone else's, if you have. Do have a women's clinic near you? You need to have a pregnancy blood test. That's more dependable. I doubt very much that it was the sex from the week before. That's awfully quick to get a positive. Please see a counselor before you approach this man. Also, 16 is too young to be drinking with boys in their 20s. Your life experiences don't relate. Be careful. Pat

[LMo]

Guys, I think 'kisha' is gone...

[jetblackaura]

i'd just like to add that i don't have a baby!!

I can see my post being read and people thinking i've got a child...but i don't!!

sorry...just thought id add that!