<font color="purple">In my opinion, the line between sibling rivalry and sibling abuse is just way too blurry. Since birth my older brother has never stoped harassing me. But the thing is- it's considered prety much normal so no matter hOW bad he treats me, it's pretty much just called sibling rivalry and I just have to suck it up.

There are times when my brother is NICE to you know, but I'm sick of him. I've been sick of him for 8 years now. I'm sick of him to the point where even if he IS nice, I just don't care anymore.

You may ask yourself ho it got this way- it's because of the complete and utter disrespect he has for me, and how even when I try, there is absolutely NOTHING I can do in return. It's not like my parents can influence him much anymore either now because he's 18. He breaks all of the rules when they aren't around (he's been like that since he was in 3rd grade...) I swear he has the emotional maturity of of a 14 year old

But the thing is, I know in my heart that I still love him. </font>

[Perna]

Yeah, older brothers can be a royal pain; I have 3 of them. It can get better as you get older and each out of the family orbit and on your own. My oldest brother and I are really good friends now, calling and seeing each other often even though we're a couple hours apart.

[TaintedGoth1]

I know the feeling...I think a lot of people think sibling rivalry is a tiny thing but I think it's just overlooked.

[sabby]

I had a younger brother who in my mom's eyes could do no wrong. She made it abundantly clear that he was her favorite. I was made to tow the mark......to act proper and when I got upset, I had to suck it up and deal...brother dearest could break any rule, could do whatever he wanted and well "boys will be boys" *sigh*

Yes, I love my brother.....but I don't like him very much. He's selfish and lacks the ability to have a relationship with me. We see each other like once a year, if that. And that works just fine for me!

((((((((((((((((( Kaika )))))))))))))))))) I think I know how you may be feeling. Just know that someday, you will be free to live your life with or without him in it....your choice


sabby

[Dancer_in_the_light]

((((Kaika))))

You are not alone. My little brother crossed the line from "rivalry" into abuse a long time ago, and my parents just never saw it until one night it was so bad that I refused to go home and spent the night at a friend's place. From other posts I've made, you can see how much he gets away with. People need to learn to recognize abuse in their homes and the attitudes that foster abusive personalities. I always had to suck it up because I was the older one.