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#1
Apr 30, 2008, 11:32 PM
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Man Oh Man..........
  My husband got me so riled tonight that I unleashed a full force of anger up on his hairy ***** and my inner anger just needed to be set free once and for all that I used the "F" word when expressing how I was feeling at that moment. And while saying the "F" word has been far removed from my vocabulary for the last twenty years - I felt a sense of relief after my 1 1/2 minute of anger was over and thru....... wiping brow. Now - to face tomorrow. |
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#2
Apr 30, 2008, 11:44 PM
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i have that problem as well as a lot of them do
holding up anger till that one small stressful moment lets it all out-evan if it wasn't all because of them
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#3
Apr 30, 2008, 11:49 PM
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</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
whiteNight said: holding up anger till that one small stressful moment lets it all out-evan if it wasn't all because of them </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Yeah -  and if you talk to him he will say it was my fault - but if you talk to me I will that he never listens to me and he always thinks he knows what I am thinking and why I am doing something, therefore, he gets angry / upset with me when he should not - so I say it is his fault. *BIG SIGH* - 
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#4
May 01, 2008, 01:07 AM
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My favorite word!!!
 I'm sorry that you're so frustrated with him...he sounds pretty stubborn. I think that's one of the hardest traits to deal with!  Try to hang in there. |
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#5
May 01, 2008, 07:11 AM
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Thats what great about married 22 years . He owes it to you .
So let it out |
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#6
May 01, 2008, 02:39 PM
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It's not healthy to hold your feelings inside. And your husband isnt being a good husband by not listening to what your needs are.
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“In depression . . . faith in deliverance, in ultimate restoration, is absent. The pain is unrelenting, and what makes the condition intolerable is the...feeling felt as truth...that no remedy will come -- not in a day, an hour, a month, or a minute. . . . It is hopelessness even more than pain that crushes the soul.”-William Styron |
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#7
May 01, 2008, 04:24 PM
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you probably got his attention, anyway....
Glad you let it out - you deserve to be heard, Rhapsody
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#8
May 01, 2008, 07:35 PM
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I had a blow-up earlier this week. I think I would be OK with it, if when I finally blow I could limit the collateral damage. He had me so angry that I not only unloaded on him but then got angry with my kids. Luckily, I quickly caught myself and immediately stopped and apologized. I still felt like crap because apologizing is not enough.
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#9
May 02, 2008, 10:16 AM
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</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
trippinmickey said: Thats what great about married 22 years . He owes it to you . So let it out </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Thanks for the go ahead....... and I guess the same goes for him - I owe him one too -  But, Oooops he already took his a few months back..... guess we are both in a time of change and in order to do that we have to clean out the trash. |
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#10
May 02, 2008, 12:09 PM
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men are such a-holes arent they............
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#11
May 03, 2008, 01:10 AM
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</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
Brian37 said: men are such a-holes arent they............ </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Yes, at times they can be, but then at others times they can be so loving and considerate of another...... why can't I have more of the other times - just joking...... I do get others times just not enough for my liking. |
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#12
May 03, 2008, 10:03 PM
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my wife says I need to get more in touch with my "feminine side" when I am grumpy....
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#13
May 05, 2008, 02:28 PM
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Ok - some one help me and hide the rolling pin before I beat my husband with it........ and while I know my husband has his good points / side - I have to say I have not seen much of it lately and all I hear from his mouth any more comes off as Me Me Me.... and that is getting old.
The Story Last night I asked hubby to go grocery shopping with me since it was the weekend and I did not feel to well.... he said yes with no problem or argument (probably because he was still trying to make up from the event that started this thread in the first place) - but never the less I took his help. When we got to the grocery store all was going well until we got to the cheese section and I picked up Velveeta sliced cheese - Then BAM! - hubby had a cow and did not want me to get that brand of cheese because HE LIKES KRAFT..... I said well I like Velveeta Brand - words were exchanged and it ended with me saying "I don't want to hear it because you have been eating that brand of cheese for the last four months or so and you did not even know it" so lay off...... hubby replies: but now that I know I don't like it - I just walk off to the baby section to get to some food for my gliders and hubby followed...... and the Velveeta cheese stayed in the chart - nothing else was said about the cheese. And - he got huffy in bed in the middle of the night and stole my covers - lol - just had to add that part. I think I will bring my own covers to bed tonight, as I hate to be cold. * * * * * * * * Now tell me this........ WHY is it all about HIM these days (well, more than usual) as I still live in the house with him and so does our youngest son - what about the US? - the family of three. Maybe the MEN can help with the this one....... Why he is being so darn stubborn, mean, selfish and honorary? Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr |
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#14
May 05, 2008, 04:57 PM
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Someone needs to be the bigger person here.
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#15
May 05, 2008, 05:04 PM
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Can you imagine Rhapsody...
You and your husband having this "discussion" while a very hungry child would be listening... A greatful heart simply can't get angry... I know little things can get frustrating...but be gratefull that they are little things... IMHO.. Lenny
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#16
May 05, 2008, 05:14 PM
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i gotta back him up.....Velveeta sucks......Kraft is the only way to go
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#17
May 05, 2008, 07:08 PM
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Hm, is it possible it was not really about the cheese? I am very passionate about cheese myself, but if it's such an issue maybe you should just buy both, the Velveeta and the Kraft.
And while you're flinging both into the cart just ask, 'honey, what are you really miffed about?'. Just because he's behaving like a 5 year old does not mean you have to! |
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#18
May 05, 2008, 10:58 PM
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</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
StingInTheTail said: Hm, is it possible it was not really about the cheese? </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Oh trust me - I know it was NOT about the cheese...... and yet he is one stubborn man and he will not share as deeply as he might need to in order to let it all out. Why are some people like this? - *sigh* |
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#19
May 06, 2008, 08:38 AM
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" Cleanup in dairy products! "
" man down.....clutching Kraft singles " " woman running over husband with shopping cart " " advise possible domestic dispute....proceed with caution " |
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#20
May 06, 2008, 10:04 AM
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<font color="red"> "FUNNY" </font>
 <font color="red"> "FUNNY" </font>     
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#21
May 06, 2008, 11:47 PM
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Ok - I took the first step and gave hubby a kiss good night when he went to bed....... first kiss between us in about 10 days.
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#22
May 07, 2008, 08:33 AM
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</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
Rhapsody said: Ok - I took the first step and gave hubby a kiss good night when he went to bed....... first kiss between us in about 10 days. </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Ah Rhapsody....the gift of acceptance...we have such little power to change anyone except ourselves...and that is an uphill struggle... My program says.."Surrender to win"...sounds nuts but it often works... Hope you world settles down... Lenny
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I have only one conclusion,,and that is things change too quickly for me to draw them.... Sobriety date...Halloween 1989. I was plucked from hell...and treat this gift as if it is the only one... |
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#23
May 12, 2008, 12:52 AM
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OK - I would like a little feed back on this...... any advice, suggestion, ideal.
Why does it seem like hubby and I get along better after we have had a fight and we have not had sex since the fight? Any other wife / girl friend go through this same thing with their man? |
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#24
May 12, 2008, 12:45 PM
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Well, sex is one of the areas of power struggles, so you are avoiding both. You blew off some steam and lessened the pressure. Until you learn to change the way you interact, it's just a matter of time.
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#25
May 12, 2008, 06:57 PM
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Let me phase it better.........
Why is it that my husband and I get along better when we have not had (are not having sex) sex? - after a fight. That is the real question. |
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