[Jitterbug]

I have read everything that I could put my eyes on about this condition, and most of it explains my wife to perfection. I can't talk to her about it because it her "reality" I am the one who is dysfunctional. It doesn't matter what I mood I use to discuss things with her, because as soon as I say one thing that she inteprets as critical the whole conversation is blown. Her emotional walls come up and she becomes irrationally defensive. She doesn't even listen to what I am saying. She hears about half of the words of a sentence and creates her own meaning to the sentence. Then when i try to say that I didn't say those words, she says that I'm lying and that she can't believe me because I'm just trying to play with her mind.

There is no way to converse with her, and if i don't do everything she wants me to do (whether she tells me that she wants it or not) then I don't care about the family, and I"m just selfish.

The real problem is that she learned this behaviour from her mother. My wife insists that her mother is the only person who is capable and loving enough to care for our children. She and her mother don't even know that meaning of the word love. My children are being taught how to be emotionally ignorant and dependent and according to my wife, I don' t have the maturity or enough responsibility to make any decisions for our children, let alone care for them myself. Also, I have told that I am incapable of giving her the love she needs. ( Unfortunately, she may be right about that one. I don't even begin to understand the "rationality" of her "reality".)

How do I save my children and myself from this?

Try writing it all down and giving it to her that way she cant call you a liar and say you said things when you didnt, she also cant interupt you or finish sentances.