My son... is ending a 7 year relationship... he is 23.. and it has been stormy... with.. her cheating on him.. and having another's baby... he stuck around... supported.. the both of them...

baby's dad.. is now in picture.. and things are a "little" tense...as my son and girl...are still "living" together...with 2.5 year old...

she has baby's dad... and.. her other male dates come to apartment..

the moving date is August....

my son is being stuborn.. and not leaving when baby's dad shows up - she wants a relationship with him...

he also... is "waiting" her out... making it uncomfortable for her.. he refuses.. to allow other men.. to the apartment... had.. an agruement with her... and.. yazza... he is not the "agruing" kind... mellow jello...

soooooooooooooooo..

all of a sudden... he is selling off... his possessions... not the ones that are nearest and dearest to his heart..
But.. things that he... has held onto... like his first truck.. he bought at 16.. and stored at my house.. and his bass boat.. and.. just lots of stuff...

he does not seem depressed... have talked to him.... and he is planning on buying a "quad".... for hunting with the money..

it just makes.. me worried... because 6 months ago.. he would never have parted with that truck...never...

Is this a good change.... a parting from the past...

or am I "missing" something... like depression????

I just don't want to miss... "depression"... grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr... hard to be a parent....

so what do you think... is he ok???

[vetswife]

Wow, 23 so young to be in a situation like that. Don't mean to be mean but he's better off without all that baggage. As for selling his stuff... Did this girl ever demand him to get rid of it? I would be concerned that he's doing it to try to get her back. If they started dating 7 years ago and he's 23 there first date was probably in that truck and he probably wants to get ride of all memories of her (fresh start). I really don't know the signs of depression, but it sounds to me that he's just trying to move on. I hope!

Good luck!

[AAAAA]

It does sound like a positive change. The relationship doesn’t sound very healthy, but those passionate ones are usually the hardest to get over. There might be a period of sadness, but hopefully not depression.

As for his possessions, maybe his priorities have changed and he’s growing up and seeing that certain things that were important to him at one time aren’t as important anymore.

I think the only thing you can do is let him know that you’re there to listen if and when he needs to talk. If only they would keep that trait that they had as toddlers about wanting to tell mom everything. Why did that ever change?

Please keep us posted.

[wanttoheal]

It does sound like he has a lot to work through if he is not giving her space even though their relationship is over.

As far as his possessions, it's hard to say as we don't know him as well as you do. Follow your mom gut feeling and just be there if he needs to talk. Does he open up to you at all? Maybe just let him know you're there if he needs to talk. Let him know you are safe. This is a different truck than he got stolen or did he get that one back?

Good luck and let us know how it goes.