[Goldmine1]

I have been married for five years.

I was a very successful business person. Yet ,his career gets us transferred to a new location annually. I knew and understand that. I designed by internet business to allow for the moves.

He is a wonderful man - very quite and easy going but not a communitive with me. We talk about his work.

We have moved to Nowhere, NE and for 3 years I have battled to get employees and make my company work. My company is failing and that is a loss of $250K a year income. (p.s. I make the most money and all of THE fancy "toys" are paid for my me).

My mother is 84 and her health was failing so we agreed two years ago to move her in our Large home and when we transfer again we would get her a mother-in-law house. (no transfer 2 years later and he would like her to move out) That is ok with me but very tramatic on a 84 year old women.

All I ask is that he helps me with the responsibilities of the home ( he works - watches TV, takes out the trash, and 4 times a year cooks dinner) Heck I did his online Master English class this quarter for him - and I got an A ;(

I told him my company was going bankrupt and he gives me no support other thank - "hum - ok".

So now I have a bleeding ulcer, mother being moved 1400 miles to her brothers town, a 2 struggling company, 7000sq home to keep and a husband who says he loves me but is tired of fighting over "???" I think he is tired of me asking for him to help me with part of the responsibility of the house and finances or at least hold be and give me some encouragment. My spirit is broken.

I was just hostipalized for the bleeding ulcer - so I went to a hotel for two days to think - only to come home and he is mad and took off.

Wow choose my health, husband, mother and/or company and our employees well fair. My superwomen cape is in the cleaners.

Good new my dog listens to me

[Keebler]

I know that it is very hard to try to do it all as for I have been there myself as well. I do understand what you are going through and have been there myself. One thing that you have to remember is that you need to learn to pace yourself and also set aside time for yourself to relax. I was constantly on the go with my own business, school, friends, business trips and a relationship several years ago and then one day to top it all off I collapsed and was hospitalized for a week as a result of stretching myself so thin and neglecting my own health as I put others before myself. It's a really hard choice and reality that you have to make a choice between and consider what is best for you to do. All I can say is that I feel your pain and as for me I decided that I had to cut back on my work load at school and eventually I found that it was best for me to sell my business because I just had too much going on otherwise and those were the two things that where expendable after I considered it all. Regardless of what you choose to do, just remember that it's your choice and that you are doing it for the benifit of your health

[Rose3]

Look after your health,
and your finances.
Hopefully your mother will adjust.

[AAAAA]

What are you basing “He is a wonderful man” on? It doesn’t sound like he’s given you any support in any area of your life.

As a successful business woman you know that you have to prioritize what is most important to you. I would place your own health and well-being at the top of the list, it doesn’t sound like he’s willing to do that.

[concerned4stepkids]

Write down what you want, your goals... everything
Then sit with him and tell him this is what you want and because things are not going too well currently. You're not fighting, but you can't continue down this path, so here is your solution. Hopefully he is going to be willing and listen, also ask for his input and solutions. He can hop on board or you can do it without him.
Maybe business mode with a touch of love will help.

You have to have a change before it kills you.

[Perna]

So, what did you think in the two days at the motel? I don't think you can change your husband; sounds like you're trying to do too much yourself. Cut back your business so you can manage it more easily and so it's profitable again. It doesn't sound like you use the "toys" very much anyway, sell some of them. Get your priorities (your own health and happiness) straight and let other people worry about their own lives and happiness.

[Doh2007]

You sound like a strong woman. Sometimes strong women need easygoing men to make it work. And easygoing men aren't going to be the kind to step in and suddenly become powerful.

I don't think the problem is your husband. The problem seems to be the current circumstances. I think if you reclaim your power and imagination and release resentment, you'll be able to rise to this challenge.

Best wishes. You seem like a fun person.

[wanttoheal]

What about asking hubby about relocating for you this time? It doesn't sound like he's very supportive at all overall. I would be struggling also with his little boy hurt feelings over you needing some down time. Please let us know how it goes and please take care of yourself. It's affecting your health and that's not good. Take care.