[Doh2007]

I need a hug or some encouraging words really badly. In another forum, someone misread something I said and really unleashed her anger at me. I feel like all my fight/flight hormones are being released.

[bebop]

((((hugs)))) I am so sorry hon.

[50guy]

(((((((((((((((((Doh2007))))))))))))))))))))))), there ya go.

That is one of the biggest problems with internet chatting and posting. We don't get to see the face of the person, or hear the tone of voice. It creates misunderstandings and hurt feelings. You know what you meant and that is what is most important. Just let it go and try not to dwell on it. If that person continues to be offended explain yourself as best as possible. If (s)he still doesn't understand then just forget about it.

You will be ok, have a great day,

(((((((((((((((Doh))))))))))))))))))))))0

I'm so sorry hon, just want to offer you a big hug.... try and ignore this person for the time being, or explain that is wasn't to intentionally hurt her .... also remember the ignore button .....

gentle hugs, Kerry xoxoxoxoxo

[Doh2007]

Thank you so much! I could feel your good will. I had to get out of the house to distract myself. I take these things so seriously. I've apologized for upsetting her and I'm going to give it time to heal.

[Perna]

If you spoke the truth with no intent to upset her, she's the one with a problem. We can't read minds or always say the "right" thing the other person wants to hear. Know your own heart and it won't hurt so bad when someone else has a problem; you'll be free to try and help but if the other person isn't able to use your help then that doesn't diminish you and your good efforts. The only time you should feel bad or upset is when you do something anyway that your heart told you :-) not to.

[AAAAA]

(((((Doh2007))))) I'm so sorry for your miscommunication. I hope you both heal very quickly.

[JimWriter]

I think 50guy said it well. The Internet poses problems like this by virtue of the anonymity and the relatively new medium of the "World Wide Web."
It's too bad that she apparently misunderstood your good intentions.

[Rose3]

I think that I understand how you feel, because something similar happened to me in another forum - another poster must have misunderstood what I had said (all in goodwill) and starting swearing , name-calling, etc at me.
Really surpised me - but, I figured that - the reaction was immature, and kind of inappropriate.
And I agree that what is written (because we now have this internet method of communication that is unlike person-person), will leave a person open to misinterpretation. And that misinterpretation will allow the reader to introduce their own attitudes.
Try not to feel too badly about what happened, as long as you didn't mean any harm - just try to understand it. The person who is reading may be dealing with a lot of other stuff that you don't even know about, and that'll get mixed in with their interpretation.
Here's a hug for you - hope it helps a bit.

[BalishBun]

that happened to me 2, sometimes when others give their opinions, its a little more than an opinion.

[Timgt5]

(((Doh2007))

I am sorry for the trouble you had earlier, there are a lot of diverse people on this site and sometimes it is very easy to hit someone's hot button inadvertantly. On a site this size it is almost bound to happen to anyone who posts and chats on a regular basis.

Just let it roll off you and move on, its the best you can do.

I for one have always found you to be wise and inciteful, I enjoy what you post here, and I encourage you to keep on!

Take care

TJ

[sabby]

It may also be helpful to understand that we are at a mental health website here.....so many folks working through and dealing with their illness. Many are at different levels of healing with different levels of trigger responses also. We are all so diverse in our thinking, in our experiences in life.....we are bound to clash from time to time.

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((( Doh ))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) I'm sorry you had this experience and I hope that you are feeling better.


sabby

[wanttoheal]

((((((((((((((((Doh))))))))))))))) I'm so sorry. That has happened to me as well and it's hard when all we are trying to do is help. I hope things have calmed down now. Take care of yourself. People's stuff get in the way of hearing sometimes.

[Doh2007]

Thank you my friends. I'm rendered speechless by the acceptance and support you've shown me.

I know how you feel. I left here for about a year due to a fellow writing sarcastic things after all my posts. I don't know why, but he just took a disliking to me (which is OK, but I don't think he should have expressed it on the forum like that). I know everyone will not like me. I realize I do lack social skills, but I still do have feelings & did not think I should be hounded with his sarcastic comments.

My case is different than yours, it sounds like. Yours was just a misunderstanding. Anyway, I was being harrassed so I notified DocJohn & left, as I said. Since I've come back, I havven't "seen" this individual.

Hugs to you.--Suzy

[Doh2007]

I'm glad you came back. Thanks for your words of support and encouragement.

I guess it wasn't clear that this didn't happen at psychcentral. I sucked it up and went back to apologize for any offense. She said no problemo and offered an explanation for her reaction and everything was resolved. I dislike conflict, but it's the way of growth.