How do I communicate?

Well I have been in my current relationship with my bf for over a year now and it seems as though lately we have been arguing more and more. The thing is that he is constantly telling me that I need to talk to him more when I am frustrated with him or upset about something he does. The problem with this is that any time that I do mention something he blows it out of proportion an turns a simple comment into a huge argument. Because I hate to fight and argue with him over stupid stuff like him yelling at me because I tell him I didn't move his shoes and don't know where they are and he still accuses me and yells that I had to move them because he can't find them I usually just say nothing when I am bothered by something as to avoid any type of argument. Does anybody have any suggestions as to how I might go about working around this? I have talked with him on several occasions about why I never speak up when something bothers me and mentioned that it's because he over reacts to the situation and he agrees that he does and that he needs to work on it, but it's as though it goes in one ear and out the other. I asked him a simple question as to how late he would be out with his friends the other night and it turned into a huge argument of how he doesn't have any freedom and I'm a bad bf because I didn't go out with them and much more. I'm just really getting tired of feeling as though I can never say anything to him without worrying that he will take it the wrong way.

Good relationships include conflict. It can be helpful to learn better skills for communication. A marriage counselor could help you.