[trippinmickey]

I have a ex-girl friend who is going to dye .To make a long store short .Me and my wife kind of broke up 3 years ago long story but I moved in with my friend .We met in a bipolar group and she be came a freind with benfits .Im 42 and I only loved and been with 2 woman so I care about her very much .When my wife moved out of the area we lived in and moved with her and my kids to phila. I was allowed to move back in .Once again its along story but I bipolar and I was force to move out and not allow to have any contact with my kids .

I lived with my girlfriend for over a year and we have been though some very hard times togetter me losing my faimly breaking up with my wife we loved each other its just the bipolar came between us. Then my girlfreinds mom dying and them they took her kid away when she went in for treatment (same area).We both really care for each other we are alot alike and having a friend who understands you and your bipolar is priceless. When i got back with my wife she took it hard .I knew she would so i did it slowly .I wonted to stay friends she started dating when i was still living there which was hard but I surported her .When the day came and i moved out she lose it and she cross the line in some of the ways she was trying to hurt my wife .So that ended are freindship at least in my wifes eyes .

Ive been e-mailing her and trying to still be her friend .She gone off her meds. and is going though boy friends like crazy . She has stopped eating and while she lose alot of weight its get bad now she looks sick very very sick. The $ 50,000 she got from her mom is gone it took her 2 months she on myspace 24/7 thats where she mets alot of guys who end up using her mostly for money. Her last email to me was a cry for help beging me to call .I saw a picture of her on her my-space page and it made me cry .She looks so bad way to skinny and very sick looking .I know her like i know my self and it a matter of time .I feel like a peice of **** .I wont so badly to go over and hug her and tell her everything is going to be ok .That I 'll take care of her now but I cant .I cant risk what to me so long to get back. I workd really hard on my bipolar to get better and to get on the right meds. to get my wife and kids back. I dont know if i can live with my self if she dyes and its comming she on the edge she not think right she not taking her meds. she on a ton of pain meds. becuase her body is falling apart. I really do love her and this is killing me but if i go over that would be right to my wife who ive been with for 23 years and is the frist person I ever loved and has been my best friend we have 5 kids togetter and both of us have worked very hard on getting back togetter bipolar is like that I know now that its just not me that has it its my whole faimly that has to learn to live with it and that takes time alot of time .

What can I do .I know I can help her .I know I can pervent her from killing her self .How do I live with my self if i dont stop this .She needs me she got know one she alone in the world every guy she mets will use her beats her treat her like **** and thats just pushing her closer and closer .She reaching out for someone to love her to take care of her and know one comming .Just to look at her picture she looks so bad so very very sick what can i do !!!! This is some one i love very much and i dont wont to lose her !!!! I Dont think I can live with my self if I let this happen but at the same time I cant hurt my wife that way who i love very very much. I stuck ,ether way im letting some one down in the worst way.

[multipixie9]

TM,

Your first responsibility is to your wife and the mother of your children. You are risking everything for someone who is in self-destruct mode. You can pray for this woman and ask God to help her, but if you go and try to be her rescuer you will hurt and lose the woman you are married to and that would be very wrong. This is why it is so important to not get involved with people outside of your marriage, it usually ends badly.

I understand why you feel pulled to want to go to this woman but I think it would be a huge mistake for everyone. Respectfully,

Leslie