[youOme]

My husband and I have split up and he has taken the split very hard. At first we agreed to be civilized for the sake of the children, but he has turned a good thing ugly and now we are at each others throats...literally. The last rough one we had involved me called the police to get my card and computer from the home. After the officer left, he strangled me in the kitchen then again in the living room, he barricaded me in the home till I finally escaped. After that I went to the magistrates and got a restraining order. I can't believe all these years he convinced me I was a mental quack.....now look, it comes to find out he is the quack and I was just bashed down to make him feel better. Years and years of mental, emotional, and physical abuse....I am finally free. Although I have lost almost all my possessions, even my apartment and one of my cars....I am HAPPIER now then I have been in 6 years.

Isn't happiness ultimately most important? If I am happy my children should be happier, right?

As far as the children, we are still exchanging them every couple days, so far he hasn't tried anything shiesty, but I still have my guard up.

[50guy]

youOme;

Sometimes people defelect their defects in character onto others. Some even deny their mental problems and blame others for mental problems. Years of mental anguish and emotional abuse leads to physical abuse. You were right to get out and of this situation. Always be on guard and call the Police if you don't feel safe.

Good luck to you and the kids,

[seeker1950]

I can identify...I moved out into a ratty furnished trailer, leaving everything in the house.."HIS" house, after 20 years of marriage. I even let him write the divorce agreement himself...I was so intimidated by him. In retrospect, I should have gotten a sharp lawyer to help me thru it, but at the time, I feared making him angry!
I hope you are somewhere safe, and that you will seek legal counsel.
Patty