[sarahxxkristine]

I dont kn.ow if this belongs here, but it is indeed a relationship. My roommate is driving me BONKERS.She just talks and talks and talks about her boyfriend and it makes me wanna punch walls. I had no problem with it the first few days, buts its been over two weeks and I am tired of it. 24/7 of "oh i miss my boy....i wanna see my boyy....my boy isnt texting me...my boy this my boy that" she is having her father drive four and a half hours to come get her tomrrow to drive her all the way home just because her boyfriend (whose college is 30 minutes from their area) is coming home. i DONT get it. She always fights with the kid online...everynight and yet she cant stop talking about him. Mind u, i understand they're "in love" and she missses him. But its to the point that she needs to tell me stories about their sex life to be satisfied. I dont know what to say to it. Im gonna be a clinical psych and will have to deal with issues such as this, but not from sun up to sun down...maybe twice a week at most id have to hear about it.
ack, i just needed to vent. thanks for reading.
take care <3

[I_WMD]

Sarah >>..... Earplugs >>.... And nod alot !!! >> Smile when ya think it maybe appropriate >> LOL .

[pegasus]

Originally Posted by sarahxxkristine

I dont kn.ow if this belongs here, but it is indeed a relationship. My roommate is driving me BONKERS.She just talks and talks and talks about her boyfriend and it makes me wanna punch walls. I had no problem with it the first few days, buts its been over two weeks and I am tired of it. 24/7 of "oh i miss my boy....i wanna see my boyy....my boy isnt texting me...my boy this my boy that" she is having her father drive four and a half hours to come get her tomrrow to drive her all the way home just because her boyfriend (whose college is 30 minutes from their area) is coming home. i DONT get it. She always fights with the kid online...everynight and yet she cant stop talking about him. Mind u, i understand they're "in love" and she missses him. But its to the point that she needs to tell me stories about their sex life to be satisfied. I dont know what to say to it. Im gonna be a clinical psych and will have to deal with issues such as this, but not from sun up to sun down...maybe twice a week at most id have to hear about it.
ack, i just needed to vent. thanks for reading.
take care <3

You want to be a clinical psychologist? You better get used to it!

[Perna]

I'd try gently joking with her about how often she's talking about him, she doesn't sound too aware. Fall in love with your favorite pen or something and tell her, "I know exactly what you mean. . ." and go on an on about its features when she's talking about her boyfriend too much.

[pegasus]

I love pens Perna, I really doooooooo!!!

[Perna]

Yes, Sarah (and Pegasus), you could name something by the boyfriend's name and talk incessantly about the object :-)

Hopefully her school work will get intense enough she doesn't have energy/time to talk about missing him and/or she'll be gone by the end of the semester because she didn't figure out she's supposed to be living her own life, not a fantasy one with a boyfriend who isn't where she is and part of her immediate life.

[AAAAA]

Last year my daughter spent a lot of time in the study room!

[sarahxxkristine]

thank you guys for the responses. haha i promise to try all of those. She isnt here now and i am so excited. Ive gotten alot of support from my tennis teammates about the situation also. so i have lots of options of how to deal with her! haha i use my earphones frequently that was a good suggestion, i may have to use em even more takecare

[AAAAA]

Put an ipod in you're ears for a while, in a bit, just have them there, hopefully she'll get the hint.

[ECHOES]

"You miss your boyfriend a lot. It's hard. Let's talk about something else now."

It might be hard but it could bring you relief and it could bring her relief too; it might help her get out of the obsessional thinking.

Win/Win !!

[Malachite]

Dear Sarah,

Personalities, appear to range on a continuum from shy and withdrawn, to dramatic and erratic. The dramatic and erratic types, think the whole world revolves around them, and are somewhat oblivious, to the impact they have on those in their proximity. They are often self involved, and insensitive to the wants and needs of others.

You can help your roommate, and yourself, by engaging her periodically in conversations, that are all about her, i.e., be her friend, and listen, even if you may find it uncomfortable. Let her get it all out, then close the session; don't let it go on indefinitely. Start one of your assignments, go to class, go to tennis practice, or lunch, whatever the case may be.

If she attempts, to continue to talk about herself, kindly and gently, ask her if it can wait until sometime the following day. Schedule a definite time between a couple of your classes, or practices, in order to limit the session. However, keep it casual, don't make it like an appointment. Allowing her to ramble on, ad infinitum, doesn't help her, and it harms you.

The challenge, your roommate presents, is a great opportunity to hone your social skills.

Larry

[BittersweetMisery]

You could suggest that since it's so hard that she misses him that she may try focusing on something else

[eskielover]

Buy a role of duct tape & tell her that it's for her & you will use it if she doesn't stop continually talking about her boyfriend...tell her you need quiet time to study & the iscessant chatting is driving you up the wall & making it hard for you to concentrate on your studies.
I have seem TV depicting people who non-stop talk...I can just picture this with her gasping for breath between each sentence that just keeps going on & on....it would make a good cartoon....lol

Debbie

[sarahxxkristine]

hahahahaaha eskie i lovedddddd ur comment. hahahahahahahahaahaha times a million.

and my larry, ur comments always are so insightful. thank you. that sounds like a plan. I may have to try that larry.

and everyone else sorry so many im not used to it haha, but thank you for taking the time to answer me, believe me on modnay when i see her, i promise to use all ur suggestions. I am on my last nerve so im gonna try everything! haha