[Raris]

I am very sad, because I really have no friend in middle school. A lot of people think I am gay, because of rumours but I am not. I am just said because, really I am a fun, laughable person, but people don't really come up to me or say anything.

I tried changing my style a little bit, and everything. I just want friends. Can you guys please give me advice on how to make friends. I have this one girl who I think likes me but she hangs out with these unpopular people who think their animals. I just am not like that. I am more of a jokey, fashionable, guy, I even dress like popular people, but still no friends! I really need help, I am very depressed about this.

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[multipixie9]

raris,

i'll try to be helpful, but middle-school is just rotten sometimes! some things to know are: everybody feels insecure in mid.school and high school - even the popular kids.

it would help to find a group activity/club and join it - it gives you a place and reason to make friends.

when you are in the halls and other places force yourself to look at people and say hi first - no matter how much that feels weird.

during these years people tend to hang in groups for protection, cliques are just a part of life at this time, so figure out which group you really "want" to be in and work to be in that group.

i can't tell you how to get in with the popular kids, i was a loner. i wouldn't kiss up to people, i just couldn't do it. you kinda have to decide what you are willing to give up to be in a group and what you are willing to do to be a part.

choose well. these years are hard, but temporary, do your best to not let the crowd squeeze you into a shallow plastic shape.

if you decide that the most important thing for you is just fitting in, then you will have to watch those groups and seek for a way to get in. it's not what i'd recommend, but we all have to find our way.

i wish i could have given you 5 easy ways to be fine in the teen years, but no such thing really exists. its just hard and you are not weirder than anyone else (ps glad you skipped that whole "we are animals" group that sounded weirder than being a trekkie was when i was in school!!!)

leslie

[Doh2007]

Take a chance and ask someone to come over and do homework together. Look around for someone else who is just hanging out and say hi. Go to the library and see if anyone you know is there.

You sound like a fun person to know.

[digdug]

Hey Raris, yeah, middle school can be rough...it was absolutely brutal for me. Like someone said earlier, everyone is awkward and insecure, so it's a tough environment.

The best way to make friends is to "find" yourself and have confidence in who you are...it sounds like you're not too far away from that. In my younger years I became much happier when I stopped trying to fit a certain image or type...the trick is to find out who you are. Then I can tell you, the friends that you want will come.

Anyway, don't sweat things too much...the thing you realize after middle/high-school is that it's a tiny part of your life that people make a big deal about for no discernable reason.

[selfy]

i detested middle school personally. it is the age most kids arent mature enough to accept peoples differences, and dont have the self esteem to be able to accept them either.
i cant really help as i was always an outcast. i am only just beginning to become accepted as a person, and i am nearly 17. wooow im nearly 17 :P

but yeh. you have to learn that all peoples personalities are shifting during this period. they have hormones running them, they are insecure, and as a result they can be pretty unfriendly.

i suggest you try not to take life too seriously at this stage, as doing that can make life rather hard and disheartening. i find middle school kids tend to make lives hard for those who seem to coast through without much of an issue with self esteem. and as aresult, those people suffer the most.

iwish i could give you some suggestions, but the only one i can think of is attempt to find some people who accept you for YOU. we are all flawed, and we all have bits we dont like about each other, but as the kids get older they will realise that, and thats when they start to grow up.

also, maybe its me, but your syntax makes it sound a little like english is not your first language, if im wrong correct me and i apologise, if its true may i ask what you speak natively?

[larrynjr]

I echo what others have mentioned, identify a group or activity that you like and just start hanging out with that crowd. Ask someone to help you with your homework, even if you don't need the help.

I'm an middle age type and didn't have a middle school where I grew up, K-8 then HS. I knew all those kids and always had friends, though not necessarily all the kids were friends but none were enemies.

Be yourself and like yourself, be friendly to everyone. Never give up and if things look too bad, talk to a counselor at school. Grownups can help if you let them.

[mdavishotgurl]

I know how you feel, right now the same rumors circulating around your school about, are going around my school about me. And like you, I know they're not true. I just want you to remember one thing: the reason why people are talking about is because you're always on their minds. Those are only words, and no man can judge you, only God can judge you.

Originally Posted by Raris

I am very sad, because I really have no friend in middle school. A lot of people think I am gay, because of rumours but I am not. I am just said because, really I am a fun, laughable person, but people don't really come up to me or say anything.

I tried changing my style a little bit, and everything. I just want friends. Can you guys please give me advice on how to make friends. I have this one girl who I think likes me but she hangs out with these unpopular people who think their animals. I just am not like that. I am more of a jokey, fashionable, guy, I even dress like popular people, but still no friends! I really need help, I am very depressed about this.

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[Alex2]

Middle school IS a hard time, no matter what. Don't change who you are to try and fit in though. Those TRUE friends will come!

Originally Posted by Raris

I am very sad, because I really have no friend in middle school. A lot of people think I am gay, because of rumours but I am not. I am just said because, really I am a fun, laughable person, but people don't really come up to me or say anything.

I tried changing my style a little bit, and everything. I just want friends. Can you guys please give me advice on how to make friends. I have this one girl who I think likes me but she hangs out with these unpopular people who think their animals. I just am not like that. I am more of a jokey, fashionable, guy, I even dress like popular people, but still no friends! I really need help, I am very depressed about this.

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