why is he rude to me

Can someone please explain to me why this 15 year old is so rude to me. I'm 19 and I'm living with a philipino family. This philipino family is allowing me and other homestays, including the 15 year old, to stay in their home and go to school. what I find irritating is that this 15 year old is always insulting me. Never have I insulted him or made him feel bad about himself. I've always been respectful and treated him with kindness...even when he insults me. At first I would laugh off his jokes (which were sometimes hurtful)...but he just keeps insulting me. He says things like...you're fat...or that my bf will cheat on me, or that I'm ugly. One day I just got upset and walked off. He said he was sorry ( not sincerely) and I forgave him. After I forgave him he kept doing it. So I deleted him off my facebook and I just completely ignore him now because he just adds to my stress of my college and work. I just want respect. I guess I'm really upset about this because I want respect from everyone, I feel I don't always get that. I feel I am smart, attractive, funny...but people judge me as being quiet, shy and reserved...and don't get to know me. It really hurts me and somedays I wish I was not alive.

(((((((((( myoasis ))))))))))))))

I'm sorry to hear about this teenager being so rude and insulting towards you. Please know that I'm not making excuses for him by any stretch of the imagination. Sometimes kids his age have difficulty expressing when they "like" someone and it comes out in a negative way. It's very childish and hurtful...there is no doubt, and you should not have to deal with it. But, think about it, if he likes you, maybe he feels jealous that you have a boyfriend? Maybe he wishes he could have more time with you? I could be totally off base here.....but it might be something to think about.

If you are living together in the same home, do others (adults) in the home see and hear what is going on? If so, can you ask for their help in talking with this young man and explaining to him how words hurt?

I hope he backs down and realizes how he's making you feel and that his behaviors are inappropriate. Wishing you well!


sabby

he's either just an idiot, shallow or has feelings for you
15 year old guys are just hard to understand
i should know lol

The other posters here sum up my immediate thoughts perfectly. 15 is a bizarre age, to say the least. If he's a homestay, does that mean he's been separated from his parents? That could explain a lot, if he came out of a bad home environment or something.

If you want to be nasty (which might be the only way to go to), tell him you're going to get your boyfriend to beat him up. If your boyfriend isn't a big guy, tell him your boyfriend and a bunch of his friends are going to beat him up. Sometimes you have to fight fire with fire when it come to teenagers. Of course only do this if you feel secure enough, but it's just a thought.

While I wouldn't personally recommend threating the boy (lol) I would consider the fact that he may well have something of a crush on you. At that age, as was said previously in this thread, guys of that age have a very hard time expressing their feelings. They don't want to come off sounding unmanly for feeling stuff so they say whats on their mind in a twisted fashion.

Kind of like the "Yes means No, but No can mean yes" expression.

He could be just childish though and is just using you for his personal entertainment.

I would try to talk with him, really reach out and grab his attention somehow. Next time he throws an insult at you, laugh it off and offer to buy him lunch or something. Then, while there tell him that the things he says really does hurt you and you say sometimes you feel like you wish you weren't alive... so I imagine he's not the only person giving you a hard time. Explain to him that you get it from all angles so while you're at your "home" you don't need to get roughed up there, too.

Else, publicly embarrass him. As he walks away distraught, give him a reminder you're not one to be messed with. -shrug- It could work!

When I suggested threatening him, I didn't mean that anything should actually be done to the boy. I just wanted to make that clear. One can say such things in an obviouslu joking way.

Seriously, though, mention your boyfriend in some sort of context and see if he wigs out. That would give you a big clue as to what it up.

LoL

Relax DigDug. I don't think anyone here believed you were seriously recommending physical harm.

Your name is kind of fun to say. DigDug. DigDug. Reminds me of an old game I used to play. Wish I could remember the name of it for the life of me I can't! :P