[cupcakeXcrazy]

I don't know if this is in the right place, but I thought maybe someone could give me some advice?
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OK, this is a little weird for me, but I'm going to say it anyways. On a website, I signed up and signed up as a male only for a joke. urns out, it ended up being much more than that. I met a guy, he is gay and he thinks I am a guy too. I believe that I, myself, have fallen in love with him and he claims to love me too. (yes, i know i am only 13, but hey.) He hasn't been online for 2 months and I'm literally going crazy with worry.

I met another guy in this same situation where he thinks I am a guy and he is also gay. He says he loves me and thinks we are meant to be together. He says he wants to be with me for the rest of his life. He knows about my situation with boy #1 and I don't know what to do.

Has anyone ever been in a similar situation? I know this is completely weird and wrong, but I never even meant for it to happen. It just fell into my lap, just like that. I need advice. I hate lying, but I am scared that they will hate me if I tell them the truth. I hope that they love me enough to look past it, but I still can't help but be afraid. They both mean the world to me and I'd hate to lose them. I am so so confused. Help?

[Gleak]

A relationship will never work without trust. Starting a relationship with a HUGE lie isn't the way to build that trust.

At the age of 13, you should probably not be looking for guys anyway as a lot of (but not all) guys are out for one thing.

You should tell them the truth about your lie, the sooner the better. Apologize and try to regain their trust if you absolutely feel that you have to.

[myoasis89]

what are you doing on these sites anyways? it's a dangerous place for a thirteen year old girl, that's for sure. I would stay away from this because you're only going to get into trouble. I'm also pretty sure that a gay guy won't turn straight overnight either...so I'm sorry to say this, but don't waste your time with these guys. Concentrate on school and friends for now. The right guy will come around when you're much older and mature. Believe me, it will happen....

[Kendyll]

Originally Posted by cupcakeXcrazy

On a website, I signed up and signed up as a male only for a joke....I know this is completely weird and wrong, but I never even meant for it to happen. It just fell into my lap, just like that.

This did NOT "just fall" into your lap.
You created a fake identity on purpose.
You CHOSE to sign up as a guy.
You lied from the very beginning.

Maybe it was a joke to you...
Not all "jokes" are harmless. Not all "jokes" are funny.
Now you've got two real human beings with feelings caught up in your "joke".
How would you feel if you met some "guy" online, got attached then found out "he" was really a girl?
How would you feel?

My suggestion would be to own up to the truth and accept whatever consequences fall from there. You don't need to waste any more of anyone's time leading people on, manipulating and deceiving them.

You may be thirteen, but it's never too early to learn how to treat other human beings with honesty, decency and respect.

[bebop]

you really should tell your parents what you have done so they can protect you! do not go back to that site! I really hope you did not give out any personal info on yourself.

[cupcakeXcrazy]

its not really a bad site anyways, its just what i did that makes it seem that way. and no, i didn't give any personal info.

@ Kendyll - i know what you said is true. but i have realized that i've done this and it needs to be fixed. i've already contemplated everything you've said before you even said it and just because i did this doesn't mean that i don't have honesty, decency and respect. when i created the account in the first place, i was really messed up in the head and was going through a really rough time. i don't know why i felt like i wanted to do it, even as a joke, but i know that i regret it.