[myoasis89]

I'm afraid that I might be stressing my bf out. I continusously tell him about my problems and that I had thought of hurting myself and family problems. I alway tell him that if he wants to leave me to please tell me. He hasn't yet and it's been 7 months. I really care for him...but I'm afraid of smothering him since he is the only close realitonship I ahve....I seem to get worried really easily wwhich I wish i wouldn't...He is probably my first love...I'm 19 by the way and he is 24. He make me relaly happy. we could be doing nothing and that would be fine with me because I jut enjoy his company. I'm jut worried about losing him...I feel I should start ignoring him so I am not so clingy. I've enver been clingy like this before...it makes me feel really uncomfortable. I feel like crying right now becaue I feel like I'm such a burden and I hate that...I've enver been cared before like this

can i please get some guy perspectives on this?

[eirich37]

Not a guy.....but my boyfriend from the past two years has seen me suffer through the same types of things. For the first year and 1/2, he was supportive and kind and loving, but then it all started annoying him. He got tired of doing for me and we broke up. We did get back together but now he insists on not talking about my issues and he is completely not there for me. When I get in a depressed state, he leaves and will stay gone for days at a time. It only makes it worse, but he doesn't seem to care. Not every guy will be like him, though, if he is a good guy, have faith in him and don't expect the worse. Life will be what it will be. I think in my own relationship, I pushed too hard....I was always questioning his love and he got tired of reassuring me. I feel to blame for the most part, but in the end, I am not happy because the relationship is not supportive. Remember to be thankful that he is there with you and don't push to hard. Don't ever make it sound like its his fault you feel the way you do.....try not to ask too many questions so he thinks you don't trust him......make sure he knows the problem is within yourself and that you need his help getting through it...someone to rely on....in time, if he remains a constant help, you will get over the fear.