why do guys

find it funny to frustrate women....Whenever I feel guilty...my bf makes me feel more guilty...and then i feel bad...and he's like I'm only jk....WHY do they do that...it drives me up the wall because I'm concerned for him and I'm trying to be a good gf....Also i've heard that men have no feelings....is this true....do they not have any feelings or love for their gf or women...they jsut want sex.... it upsets me greatly...all my life I waited for the right man to come along so I could find friendship and love

myoasis, don't give up. I read in another thread that you are 19 and this is your second boyfriend. If your boyfriend is close in age to yourself, some of his bad traits may be immaturity. When I was your age, I had better luck going out with guys who were a bit older. They were more mature, more articulate, and seemed somehow deeper. They talked about more interesting things. I don't think guys as a rule find it funny to frustrate women, make women feel guilty and bad, and have no feelings. You are having a relationship right now that is teaching you what you do and don't want in future relationships. So even though it's painful, it's still valuable and will help you in the future. Maybe one thing to learn is to find friendship and love with a guy first, and then move on to sex.

sunrise is right and there's nothing i can add except if you can't meet a nice slightly older guy right now, don't worry about men too much, because even the biggest teenage pigs sort themselves out after college, for the most part.

I had to laugh a tiny bit. Men only mature after they've either finished college or joined the army. Luckily for me, all 18 year old men are drafted here - so all 18 year old boys are turned into 19 year old MEN.
All of my boyfriends have been 19+ (since I was 15), cos I don't waste my time on immature boys who think it's funny to make you feel bad and who only want to bang you.

Men are fully capable of loving a woman, OH so much love! The thing is, only MEN are capable of that - BOYS are not. And being an adult doesn't make you a man by default; I know 35 year olds who are still boys.
I don't know how old your boyfriend is - but unless he's a capitol M-MAN, I wouldn't waste my time on him. But that's just me. If he makes you feel bad, and if you don't get anything from the relationship - dump his sorry a-- and go find another fish.

Well myoasis,,there have been times I would have traded them for torture...

We have feelings,,just like you. Youth is a time for discovery and finding the reasons for these feelings...Some literally appear overnight,,like Fed EX came with a special package of feelings...hurray....What to do with these...

Do the very best you can with yours myoasis and at some point you will meet someone who has come to understand theirs..

With Care,

Lenny

And He will, but truth be told it may not be the guy you are with now.... but then again He could be the one and he just needs time to mature (grow up) - You Decide.

hey my oasis, just a general statement

not all guys are bad..never give up and "never let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game"

guys can be confusing make sure you talkin to him about it
tell him how u feel which is always good

hope things get better(:

bests,
atmnbf

hey my oasis

you should tell him how u feel about he making u feel guilty..thats not something a significant other should do. if u can talk about how u two feel your relationship will/would be on the right path
ps, dont let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game
best of luck with the bf,
atmnbf