[LOVELYLADY1]

who could ever help me, help me; please, if you read my about me, then you would know a little about me. Now my life is going crazy; well my boyfriend got killed four years ago and believe me this is crazy.I got with a man about a year and some months after my man got killed; was with him until about seven months ago, he was a ok kind of guy; but he drank to much and stay drunk to much and didn't work and it took me a long time to get him out of my life. Even so he still calls all the time but i don't talk to him; here comes the crazy part i am going with his uncle; i always liked him i pick the wrong man. Just wait his uncle goes with my girlfriend because of me. i'm the one that got them two together even so she was kind of seeing someone else at the time. What was i thinking i was already with his nephew for two weeks, i should have got out then and got with his uncle. But I waited for me and his nephew to brake up, then i made my move; i couldn't take it no more, i've been liking him for a long time and he been liking me to. Its kind of my girlfriend fault and my ex-boyfriend fault, because ever time i needed something done, they will tell me to call him, even if it was just to take me to the store or move something or cut my grass they will tell me to call him and i was loving that; because i was already liking him, so see its not my fault. Ok thats not all of it, he no longer goes with my girlfriend; but they are still friends and she does not know about us and i hope she will never fine out. Anyway he also has another woman he has been with for fifteen years which i already known about, he says that they don't have sex no more and they have no kids together and for almost three years of me seeing him with my girlfriend and he works, when did he ever have time for that other lady. I only stay five min. away from him and he calls me everyday to check to see if i need any thing or how i am feeling and he stop by after work or when he goes home and then showers and comes back for a few hours; he cuts my grass and fixes things around the house, he does the things men do around the house and i don't even have to ask him. Oh and sex is great, very great he stays on the weekends sometime. And he takes care of everything he needs to at his house. He even told me, she jokes with him about having another woman; she has to know, i know she can be that stupid, she tell him, oh bring her by let me meet her, maybe she can help me out around the house or something. Me and him are good friends and great lover. I have not been this happy in a long time. I don't worry him about things and he don't worry me about things. If i can have this relationship with him like this forever it would be wonderful, we have not argue; not even once. Sorry this might not be right; but its one of the best relationship i had in a long time. I don't care what people think, only GOD can just all of us on earth. I need to be happy for a change, life to short not to be happy.

[Lenny]

Good Morning Lovelylady...

I,,nor anyone here, has the right to judge you. You choices are your own.

Your title states that you know what your doing is wrong,,but your post seems to justify it...?

This uncle may be offering you some of the things you "need",,but what about commitment and loyalty?

Even in this short life of ours,,,those two emotions are deeply valued when our worlds can seem to be tumbling down...

I ask that you simply look at your relationship and ask yourself if you are being used...that's all I ask...

And whats with the big red letters...your post was heartfelt enough without the billboard....

With care,

Lenny

[agony007]

i couldn't agree more with Lenny's statement. he is right-on. especially in that you began your post in saying that what you are doing is wrong, yet you completely justified your position throughout the rest of the post. i wonder who you are trying to convince that the relationship you have is solid, us or yourself?

i agree that no one has the right to judge you. however, there are plenty of red flags in your post. one is that you say that the man your involved with told him he is not physically intimate with his spouse. i have to tell you, most men who are unfaithful to their spouses will make that claim. that statement is to be expected, it's so cliche. and i can understand that you are happy and feel loved, however, wouldn't you like to have a committed relationship that excludes others? do you trust this person? if he was willing to cheat on your friend and on his spouse, it's not hard to determine what kind of person he is.

i disagree with your claim that it was your boyfriend's and girlfriend's fault that you got involved with this man. as individuals we have complete control over the decisions we make. we must take responsibility for our actions. no one can tell you what to do, we can only send good wishes your way and wish you the best in life. best of luck to you.

[50guy]

Not to get into a disagreement but as a point of consideration.

We all make judgments everyday as to what is right and what is wrong. The poster indicates that she knows it is wrong.

Good luck to you in your decisions.

[nothemama8]

Welcome, we have a great bunch of folks here and try to understand what each person is going through, as you said your the other woman, but after you who is he playing around with, you deserve better and I truely hope you find someone who is able to focus on you alone
Angie

[LOVELYLADY1]

Originally Posted by agony007

i couldn't agree more with Lenny's statement. he is right-on. especially in that you began your post in saying that what you are doing is wrong, yet you completely justified your position throughout the rest of the post. i wonder who you are trying to convince that the relationship you have is solid, us or yourself?

i agree that no one has the right to judge you. however, there are plenty of red flags in your post. one is that you say that the man your involved with told him he is not physically intimate with his spouse. i have to tell you, most men who are unfaithful to their spouses will make that claim. that statement is to be expected, it's so cliche. and i can understand that you are happy and feel loved, however, wouldn't you like to have a committed relationship that excludes others? do you trust this person? if he was willing to cheat on your friend and on his spouse, it's not hard to determine what kind of person he is.

i disagree with your claim that it was your boyfriend's and girlfriend's fault that you got involved with this man. as individuals we have complete control over the decisions we make. we must take responsibility for our actions. no one can tell you what to do, we can only send good wishes your way and wish you the best in life. best of luck to you.

I'm not blaming my x-boyfriend or my girlfriend, they just kind of made it easier for me to get in this relationship; by having him around me all the time and I was already liking him a lot. I let him read what I had wrote on here; maybe i should have let him ; but I did. He was a little surprise and ok with it. I would like to chat with people, but i can't because my JAVA not working and I try to fix it but i can't; so this is the only way that i have for now until i fix it. Thank you for your comment and well appreciated .
LOVELYLADY1

[GeneticlyBipolar1]

At this point you are already involved. So from one woman to another, all you can do now, especially since you are obviously SMITTEN over someone elses man, all you can do now, is follow it where it takes you, and PRAY that you end up where you wanna be. And statistics show, that thats not necessarily where you will be. A man that does this type of thing, always will. And don't think for a second that his nephew or someone else in that family doesn't know, you are not that special you see, cause he didn't leave the 15 year woman, so he will not keep your secret, only when it suits him he will. So GOOD LUCK !

[LOVELYLADY1]

Originally Posted by GeneticlyBipolar1

At this point you are already involved. So from one woman to another, all you can do now, especially since you are obviously SMITTEN over someone elses man, all you can do now, is follow it where it takes you, and PRAY that you end up where you wanna be. And statistics show, that thats not necessarily where you will be. A man that does this type of thing, always will. And don't think for a second that his nephew or someone else in that family doesn't know, you are not that special you see, cause he didn't leave the 15 year woman, so he will not keep your secret, only when it suits him he will. So GOOD LUCK !

I feel bad that he has another woman, but like you said i am smitten over this man, really i am; but i am happy for the moment even if we stop the sex, we are still friends and believe if we stop having sex; he will still be there if I needed him. He is just that kind of man, we laugh and talk and drink sometimes; we was doing this way before we had sex. We both care about each other a lot, so do you think we should just stop seeing each other all together? Lets hope not, that no one knows in his family or my girlfriend and her family also; because it will not be pretty at all, and I just hope and pray no one find out. But he makes me happy and if you go look at my profile and some things I have posted you will know me a little better. Wish me luck I need it, who knows we might be together; who knows only God and I know it wrong, but only God judging me, and he is all that matters to me. No kids in this mix and no one married and God is a forgiving God; and i do have a loving heart and I always try doing the right thing.
Thank you for your reply and have a bless day, i can't live chat because of my java not running; this is my only way.

[sanegame]

Originally Posted by LOVELYLADY1

who could ever help me, help me; please, if you read my about me, then you would know a little about me. Now my life is going crazy; well my boyfriend got killed four years ago and believe me this is crazy.I got with a man about a year and some months after my man got killed; was with him until about seven months ago, he was a ok kind of guy; but he drank to much and stay drunk to much and didn't work and it took me a long time to get him out of my life. Even so he still calls all the time but i don't talk to him; here comes the crazy part i am going with his uncle; i always liked him i pick the wrong man. Just wait his uncle goes with my girlfriend because of me. i'm the one that got them two together even so she was kind of seeing someone else at the time. What was i thinking i was already with his nephew for two weeks, i should have got out then and got with his uncle. But I waited for me and his nephew to brake up, then i made my move; i couldn't take it no more, i've been liking him for a long time and he been liking me to. Its kind of my girlfriend fault and my ex-boyfriend fault, because ever time i needed something done, they will tell me to call him, even if it was just to take me to the store or move something or cut my grass they will tell me to call him and i was loving that; because i was already liking him, so see its not my fault. Ok thats not all of it, he no longer goes with my girlfriend; but they are still friends and she does not know about us and i hope she will never fine out. Anyway he also has another woman he has been with for fifteen years which i already known about, he says that they don't have sex no more and they have no kids together and for almost three years of me seeing him with my girlfriend and he works, when did he ever have time for that other lady. I only stay five min. away from him and he calls me everyday to check to see if i need any thing or how i am feeling and he stop by after work or when he goes home and then showers and comes back for a few hours; he cuts my grass and fixes things around the house, he does the things men do around the house and i don't even have to ask him. Oh and sex is great, very great he stays on the weekends sometime. And he takes care of everything he needs to at his house. He even told me, she jokes with him about having another woman; she has to know, i know she can be that stupid, she tell him, oh bring her by let me meet her, maybe she can help me out around the house or something. Me and him are good friends and great lover. I have not been this happy in a long time. I don't worry him about things and he don't worry me about things. If i can have this relationship with him like this forever it would be wonderful, we have not argue; not even once. Sorry this might not be right; but its one of the best relationship i had in a long time. I don't care what people think, only GOD can just all of us on earth. I need to be happy for a change, life to short not to be happy.

Please take some responsibility for your own actions in this case.

[theama]

Can you please refrain from using red coloring and serif fonts and letters the size of a car? Some of us have vision problems, black on white is the best way to go. I can't even that shizzle yo, not a chance.

[LOVELYLADY1]

Originally Posted by sanegame

Please take some responsibility for your own actions in this case.

Hello sanegame, I am taking the blame on this and I was just saying it, because it was kind of funny that they always put us together; thats all I meant nothing more , nothing less.

[LOVELYLADY1]

Originally Posted by agony007

i couldn't agree more with Lenny's statement. he is right-on. especially in that you began your post in saying that what you are doing is wrong, yet you completely justified your position throughout the rest of the post. i wonder who you are trying to convince that the relationship you have is solid, us or yourself?

i agree that no one has the right to judge you. however, there are plenty of red flags in your post. one is that you say that the man your involved with told him he is not physically intimate with his spouse. i have to tell you, most men who are unfaithful to their spouses will make that claim. that statement is to be expected, it's so cliche. and i can understand that you are happy and feel loved, however, wouldn't you like to have a committed relationship that excludes others? do you trust this person? if he was willing to cheat on your friend and on his spouse, it's not hard to determine what kind of person he is.

i disagree with your claim that it was your boyfriend's and girlfriend's fault that you got involved with this man. as individuals we have complete control over the decisions we make. we must take responsibility for our actions. no one can tell you what to do, we can only send good wishes your way and wish you the best in life. best of luck to you.

Hello and hope you are having a lovely day, just to let you know i do take the responsibility for this and I am the one that made the first move. But any way i was just saying that they are the ones that kept putting me and him together and thought that was kind of funny, but i do know its not their fault that silly to say that. And I know that its still wrong. So what i said about my x-boyfriend and girlfriend it really didn't mean anything i was just saying; it meant nothing more or nothing less. I take all the blame.

[LOVELYLADY1]

Originally Posted by theama

Can you please refrain from using red coloring and serif fonts and letters the size of a car? Some of us have vision problems, black on white is the best way to go. I can't even that shizzle yo, not a chance.

Hello and sorry that you have vision problems, I thought by making the letters big that it would help people like you so i guess i was wrong and sorry for that theama and does the color make a difference ? I did't understand the last line ( I can't even that shizzle yo, not a chance.) Can you explain that to me please?

[nothemama8]

Lovelylady, for some ppl the color red is hard to read , others have trouble becuz it causes dizzyness