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Dec 02, 2008, 01:34 PM
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Hey guys...its me again...ive been talking with the soon to be ex wife (she cheated....gave her another chance....she saw anotehr guy claims to not had sex with him, but whatever) and we both agree that we want what is best for each other. We both see we still love each other.
How many couples break up bc of adultry and get back together years down the road? |
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Dec 02, 2008, 01:37 PM
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I believe it is totally an individual thing. After 17 years of being apart, my first husband and I are talking again and there was adultery. It all depends on where life takes you.
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____________________________________ "We can't talk at the same time! It doesn't work like that! I talk, you talk, I talk, you talk!!" ~ Peanut 
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Dec 04, 2008, 08:00 AM
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good luck with that
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Dec 04, 2008, 08:32 AM
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yeah, all kinds of thoughts are running through my mind at 172 mph!!! It probably will go nowhere, but it's nice to be able to talk to someone I have a history with, without bitterness. Blah. I wanna be a kid with no worries again! Life was much easier!!!
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____________________________________ "We can't talk at the same time! It doesn't work like that! I talk, you talk, I talk, you talk!!" ~ Peanut
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#5
Dec 04, 2008, 10:40 AM
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I hate being the pessismitic one here because well, at PC I think most of us are trying to look at the good aspect of things, but I wanted to say this based on what you had said above. You know you may never beable to trust her again and trust is huge in a relationship, enough to make it or break it. You said above that she had claimed that they were together but did not have sex...whatever, there already you do not believe what she says (probably rationally). Just imagine, every time she walks out the door alone, what you'll think and how you'll react when she's late when returning.......prepare for these thoughts if you do plan on getting back together.
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Dec 04, 2008, 11:09 AM
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I think it depends on whether the issues that led to the adultry are resolved.
Lenny
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I have only one conclusion,,and that is things change too quickly for me to draw them.... Sobriety date...Halloween 1989. I was plucked from hell...and treat this gift as if it is the only one... |
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Dec 07, 2008, 12:23 PM
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On that note, she has learned that something that led to problems in our relationship was that she wasn't open about alot of things....I was always there trying to listen....and her constantly saying she didnt want to go to college and would rather be a housewife, AFTER she promised me she should go to college. I told her this, and I admitted that it is pretty cocky to say, but I dont think she will ever find anybody that would have done what i did for her....im not saying im perfect though, nobody is, but i did everything i could for her and the marriage. But as everybody knows, to make it work, it takes two. Especially for a marriage to survive infedelity. |
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