why does it have to be me!!

Yet again, my mother wont listen to me. I have to redo this assignment for science and I told her i didn't do it, but it was because i was too stressed and angry to do it. But, like always, she doesn;t let me explain! She sents me to the computer and doesn't let me leave it until it's done. Way to go mother. Thanks for making me cry, again. Like every other day, she orders me around, ignores what i say or try to say, tells me to do things over and over again because i ddint do it right, or because she thinks i didnt do it. Well i have other stressful important things. Ugh! geez, I hate my mother, it's like she just has excuses just for me to do extra work. I never see her do anything at the house except for sitting infront of the tv, with food. And the rare time that she vaccums, is like 8 in the morning! Like comon woman i have to get to school sometime!!

Sorry that you are going through this, I don't really have any ideas but wanted to let you know that I hear you.

hey, thanks. I dont really need anyone to help, but it would be greatly appreciated.
Im pretty sure im abuse, not sexualy or like hittting abuse. But verbal abuse, I get called naes sometimes by my mom, i get neglected by her, bossed about by her, she never listens to me, but i have to listen to her. Im all alone, all the time. I have no social life besides at school. Im in grade nine. My birthday is on monday December 15th. I feel like my parents dont care. I try to tell my dad (he doesn;t live with us) but he just says im over imaginating this all. I'm so scared. Im only 13 and have an older sister she's 16, but i can never talk to her because she has a social life. My mom telss me and her to shovel the snow together, but i always have to do it, alone. In the cold, no matter what time of day, I have to get it done. It's all not fair. It's like my mom and sister depend on me all the time! I'm nearly failing! Im nearly anorexic. I can;t deal with this much stress!!!

this probably doesnt help but... moms are often... no good. mine gets on my nerves
sorry, just remember, just realize what she says may not always be right

Your Mom sounds like my Mom. She treated me like her personal servant all my life-I was responsible for folding ALL family laundry at the age of 3. With every year that passed, I got handed more maid services to do. By 11 I did ALL housework. My Mom didn't work at a job or at home&it didn't matter if I had homework-getting my chores done was always first. Didn't matter if I'd had a bad day or was sick-I HAD to do my chores or she'd scream&yell&call me every name in the book&start smacking, kicking&punching me around. My Dad knew this was going on&often joined in once he got home from work. I was their personal slave&punching bag. When they finally divorced I never heard from my Dad until 4 years later when my Mom left me homeless&penniless. She took every cent of every paycheck I got and I had to resort to stealing to feed myself. Dad did help, but blamed me for everything-why didn't I have a better paying job? Why didn't I know her lease was up? She never told me until I had 2 weeks to find a place to live&I'd just gotten a job in a right to work state(which means no full time jobs with decent pay or benefits). A lot of places wouldn't hire me because I didn't have a car&was not able to come to work in 10 minutes whenever they deemed it necessary to call me in because someone else didn't show up for their shift after I'd already worked an 8 hour shift. My Mom abandoned me after my folks divorced. There was a roof over my head, but no food&often no utilities-I wasn't old enough to legally work yet. She spent all of her time going to bars to pick up men to bring home or if she had a boyfriend, she'd stay at his house all of the time. She'd come home once a week&I never knew when that would be&if the house wasn't spotless she'd beat me. She'd call me every 1/2 hour to make sure I hadn't gone anywhere or had any friends over. She didn't buy food&besides cleaning the house she never was at, she expected me to do her boyfriend's laundry too. When it came to school clothes-I bought everything at Goodwill-she'd give me $10&say "Buy some new school clothes&don't buy those second hand rags you get from God knows where." Even back in the 80's-you couldn'y buy anything but underwear or socks for $10.
I know exactly how you feel&unfortunately unless you're getting beaten up&aren't too afraid to report it-you're not going to see much change if your Mom, Dad&sister won't stick up for you once in a while. I know it sucks-but I know how the system works-they don't care unless there's provable physical abuse.
Keep your chin up, you're not 13 forever&once you graduate, get the Hell out of there&don't have anything to do with any of them ever again. It's the only way that's worked for me. Not cheerful advice, but advice nonetheless. Take care of YOU-maybe report what's going on to a trusted teacher, friend's parent, or a school counselor. I was a punk rocker&nobody gave a damn about me&I'm still here. You'll get through it-it's not going to be fair, fun or comfortable-but just make sure they know-you don't need them&their cr*p anymore the first chance you get to leave. Try to do well in school so you can earn scholarships&grants&make something of yourself-don't be an EVERY TIME LOSER like me.

thanks. I'll make sure too. its really cold out, about -28 degrees C, my mom made me walk to school because she said i was being "dissrespectful" bt i wasn't. so i had to walk 7 blocks to school in the freezing cold! i was like crying so much the night before. my dad does know im going through all this because my sis. boyfriend always talks to me, he knows about my eating stuff and everything else. so he talks to my dad about some but not the eating. good for that. but the eating part has been really hard, lost about 4 pounds but with the christmas season here and all this chocolate, its really hard. I eat about one meal a day. but i have too much stess, its killing me!!

Happy belated birthday, sweetheart. And I am here for you too!!!! You are doing the best you can. Don't be discouraged. Get support from friends at school or a teacher or a relative or anyone you can look up to if you can outside of home, OK?

What's your eating problem? Not enough? Or too much? If it's not enough you may be like me. I take Wellbutrin XL&Geodon&they really kill your appetite. I went from 203lbs. at the beginning of 2007 to around 114lbs. now. I eat only 2 meals a day&I also DO have the appetite for chocolate! If you're eating too much, it may be you're eating for comfort-that's what I used to do when I was heavy&felt yucky. Don't beat yourself up about it-beating yourself up doesn't make you gain or lose weight! Life is hard once you hit about 12-13 years old. So many physical changes&emotional changes&when your family isn't very nice it's even harder. It won't be like this forever! Remember you're the only one like you&you're special because of that-you're here for a reason-we all are-though it may not be clear now-it will eventually become clearer. Keep your chin up-I know what it's like to have punishing parents when you haven't done anything-you will eventually get away from them. Remember you can't change them, but you can find others-friends or family or teachers-ministers that can fill in those holes your parents aren't filling in your life.