[Junerain]

I am being bullied at nursing school, basically, for being bipolar and/or different...they wash their stethoscopes if I touch them...they request not to be my clinical partner...they talk....they whisper..

....................................................I knew nursing school was going to be a challenge...but not one of this scope and or drama..

Anyone else bullied at school/college....I thought nurses had special qualities too....

Yeah, I've been bullied for...pretty much anything anybody found wrong with me since I was a little kid. Up until I hit my teenage years in High School. Then I guess everyone sorta grew up, or they picked easier targets...one of the two.

I can't really say I have any advice, but I know how you feel if that helps

[gimmeice]

((((((((((((( junerain )))))))))))))))

I was bullied during elementary and jr high school but by the second year of high school it stopped, though I am not sure why. I don't really have any advice that could be useful for you because I was always told not to let the bullies get to me which really use to upset me, it didn't seem to effect them when I acted like it didn't bother me, they just kept going.
Do you have anyone that you can report them to? Bullying is outright harassment so I am sure it is against some sort of policy at school especially when they are mistreating you due to a medical disorder, that is just wrong.
I am sending you lots of hugs.

[krzyk101]

All through Jr and High School, I was called names, treated cruelly and bullied for no reason really. I was overweight teen, and did not hang out with other males and most of my friends were females, thus, the guys made fun of me more than the girls, yet not one or the other really ever took the time to get to know me.

In my Junior High parent teacher party I was voted the 'most likely to embarrass his mother' and looking back think that was not really a very kind or positive category to have voted on.

Also, I recall vividly that I was and still am ADHD and my school locker was full of papers and clutter and we were not allowed to have locks on our lockers and I recall days would pass and a foul smell would come from my locker, I had no clue what? I sorted and cleaned and in the very bottom, under all the clutter was a piece of raw beef liver placed under all the clutter, with no air conditioning in the school, and being warm maggots were on it and I recall no one really standing around laughing....that was over 20 years ago and still the memory and those names still remain in my mind from time to time.

I worked as a Nursing Assistant in my early twenty's prior to becoming disabled, and that was some time ago, only had my run in with the bully's at work also. Do not give up Nursing, my personal belief is that there are so many not taking up nursing as an art or passion, rather for being able to do the bookwork, and paycheck. Many nurses now days do not even want to even touch the patients and even get grossed out when discussing bowel movements, or urine, these are I believe paycheck nurses who do not truly have a desire to help and care for people, only those who simply want to make a career out of what was once an art.

[nowheretorun]

Junerain, Gimmeice, Kaika, krzyk i think that we underestimate the huge cost we pay for bullying.. ive experienced bullying on some level continuously throughout my life... it is one of those topics that represents the walnuts'' shell to me... inside the shell is the nutritious and life supportive gift of sustenance, the trick is getting at it...

its hard to see or imagine any good that comes from the effect of bullying... for me, i'm learning that the thing which challenges me most to understand and find healing for, is the thing which yields me the most benefit... in this way i can collect a positive energy from the experience even though it is heinous for anyone to experience...

bullying has long lasting effects on us and if we can overcome the obstacle that it presents us, we can enjoy freedom from its entrapments and our returned feelings of personal freedom from suffering will feel miraculous...

freeing ourself is a choice... we can choose instead to feel right and good about who we are right now... we are not what anyone other than ourselves has or will define us as... we will become what we make of ourself, and these trials and struggles are what shape us... this one opportunity to be leaves us too quickly to ponder what may have been, we need each moment in arriving there...

dont let those that attempt to break your flow succeed... believe in all that you are and in the place you intend to arrive at.. it is real because you will create it... victory is overcoming...

when we feel a deep need to heal ourself, when we have compassion and consideration for all suffering we witness or imagine, when we become united with others who share our hopes, together in strength we can create a community of caring and sharing, where we all can guide and help each other come to a place of less harm and more health...

as an individual you are part of that wheel Junerain and the role you find yourself in is as a participator of a continuing drama between 'the weak' and 'the strong' ...

when we as a whole realize that divisions create suffering we can choose to connect in more caring ways that nurture instead of harm.. there are ways to end suffering through human compassion and conscious consideration.. just writing these words and sharing these thoughts is raising the public consciousness and awareness of the problem leads towards solutions...

in time, those who have til now remained silent about the abusive bullying they have received will feel more confident to share and relieve themselves of an isolated suffering in a caring and compassionate way for themselves and all.. in time the silent begin to speak again.. it is then that healing may begin for all

[SeptemberMorn]

{{{{{{{{{{{Junerain}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Isn't it amazing how immature adults can act?

My ex's wife recently told my youngest son, whom she has nothing to do with because he's not my ex's kid, that I made my ex a schizophrenic. LOL To make a long story short, I looked up the causes of schizophrenia and it's 100% inherited. Even horrible abuse doesn't make you one. What I did was I printed out the information I found and handed her a copy and a copy to my ex the last time we were at a grandson's birthday part. I just walked away and didn't say anything nor did I watch to see what they did with their copy. I just know that the wife gave me even dirtier looks after that.

What you might think of doing is looking up a description of what your illnesss is and somewhere on the paper, in big letters, say that it's not catching, then post it where they can read it. Don't sign it. Just post it and walk away.

And these people are going to be caring for the ill!! Saints preserve us!

[Junerain]

(((((EVERYONE)))

entrapments seem, to trap, in the most transcendental and or mystical ways.....the words this afternoon were flowing from all sides of the classroom, words and names and echoes of outright rejection...

As far as defining myself..how can I? And yes my diagnosis is _schizoaffective_....

I ask spiritual emergency for help there seems to be a post there in the forum of that name about things felt similiarly..

...............................defining myself, hmmm I'm kind of June kind of rain.....I say neither positively nor negatively I come up on the page _undefined_.....the doctors are on their third diagnosis now........

[youOme]

I'm sorry your going through that, seems pretty childish. You'd think some one aiming for that type of proffesion would have a social quality that wouldn't call for bullying. If it were me, I would give them a tasteful peaceful of my mind and ignore them completely after that. I hope whatever happens it gets better for you, don't allow them to hurt your education.

[Junerain]

I haven't slept too much last night....called Lifeline a psychiatric hotline...I described the student's behavior and attitudes toward me....she informed me one option is to go to the nursing school's dean and deal directly with someone with more power than the teacher.....

Hi Junerain

I don't have much as far as advice to give you, but just wanted to send you lots of Hugs your way. Noone, including yourself deserves that kind of treatment from anyone. Ignore the people like that, because apparently they have deeper issues they don't want to deal with themselves.

((((((((((((( junerain ))))))))))))))

[nowheretorun]

((June))) you are researching ways to find the help you need.. ok, so maybe it isnt what you are looking for... you have the ability to punch through it.. you know inside the pain you feel and you know it is something others are made to endure.. you have your handle on the doorknob...

[splitimage]

((((Junerain))))

I'm sorry that you're experiencing bullying. I was bullied at work, and it's a horrible experience. Try to remember that it says way more about them, than about you. Hold your head up, don't be intimidated, and do everything you can to finish your education.

My father always said that the best revenge was living well.

--splitimage

[Lenny]

This may seem unrealistic junerain and you may not see any hope in it but....

Find the bully with the most power...they are easy to spot...they are generally in front of everything...

Go to that person and ask if there is anything you could do to help her..

Do that everyday,,regardless of her answer..and smile...that's important,,a genuine smile without anger...

At some point her conscience,,if she has one,,will not allow the bullying to continue upon you..

The unforunate aspect is their(the mob) behavior won't change,,they will find another... But you will be at peace.

With care,

Lenny

[Randi2008]

Originally Posted by Junerain

I am being bullied at nursing school, basically, for being bipolar and/or different...they wash their stethoscopes if I touch them...they request not to be my clinical partner...they talk....they whisper..

....................................................I knew nursing school was going to be a challenge...but not one of this scope and or drama..

Anyone else bullied at school/college....I thought nurses had special qualities too....

June,

I think everyone on earth has been bullied at one time or another. If you just sit back and let them whisper and laugh, they'll keep doing it.

Call them out! Next time one of them says something, respond and make sure everyone hears you.

As with most bullies, if you show them you can stand up for yourself, they'll stop.

[Junerain]

Ok I almost changed the name of this thread to bullies soften

In agony....I went to Living water church, the self help drop in center, Koinonia church, my mom my dad and add a call to the psychiatric hotline in the middle of the night as I was void of sleep..

It was the hotiline that came up with the idea....GO TO THE DEAN OF STUDENTS, MICHELE........funny everyone else seemed to accept that the bipolar would and could be picked on abd I did have to be assertive and call the hotline twice once in the middle of the night once early morning and DEMAND a better answer then the one i was getting....

The Dean of students was located 45 minutes away from our particular campus.................but she made the drive.....

She wasnt on my side at first not to any extent......but I said Go to my teachers the ADORE me and I them...ask the students....they ADORE me not not the bullies but most at least..

through a lot of talk all the adminstrators pulled us all out of class......they said it was the smokers who swore and insulted our teachers and our students, it was THOSE people that they were after...and I was not in that group.......!

Good triumphs over evil sometimes....now everyone is very, very good to me.......to the rest of your life....

[mountainhigh]

That's so great! I'm very happy for you. Just keep doing what you know is right and good and your reward will come. Interstingly, I get teased at work for going to church and being involved in community service. They just love it when something bad happens to me but I will persevere.