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Dec 10, 2008, 08:57 PM
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 Okay, So I dated this girl for Ummmm about 2 years. Everything was great we were in love we had everything, Then out of the blue she dumped me. She knew all along that I had been diagnosed with Bi-polar, and she was fine with it. She took care of me, made sure I took my meds, Told me she loved me every day 25 times a day, Then out of the blue dumped me. She said " It was too hard to take care of me" and that I'm abusive. I have never hurt her and anytime I threw a tantrum I apologised. If I dont take my meds I turn into a super *****, and Im sorry for that. How do I convince her that she doesnt have to take care of me? |
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Dec 11, 2008, 01:26 PM
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How do you convince her that she doesn't have to take care of you?
I think the best thing to do is to get as stable as you can. Take your meds regularly. If you have trouble remembering etc. - work on finding a system that reminds you, develop the habit. I suggest giving her some time and space. You work on you, go to therapy if you aren't doing so already, ask your therapist for ideas on all this.
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Dec 11, 2008, 03:45 PM
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CedarS,
Its not that I can't reemember to take them, I just don't want to. I guess I'm kind of hoping its just gonna do away. But thanks so much for the advice 
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Dec 11, 2008, 04:18 PM
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If you know you turn into a super ***** when you don't take your meds, then why don't you just take them and prevent that from happening? Bipolar doesn't just go away; it has to be treated and managed properly in order to have a somewhat normal life. I think if you work on yourself some and get yourself where you need to be that maybe she will notice that you are trying to keep things under control.... such as the tantrums. Maybe she thinks the tantrums are abusive in some way. And, maybe if you take your meds and show that you can take care of yourself then she won't feel that she has to take care of you. Just some ideas. I wish you all the best.
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Dec 11, 2008, 04:56 PM
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Thank you for the advice.
Basically I don't take them for the simple fact that my mother doesnt want me to be on there, she says it shames the family and I don't know I guess I just believed her after so long of her saying it. I don't want to keep hurting this girl, But right now it seems like its not going to be very different for a pretty long time. |
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