what to do

i have settled into my new place and feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my chest. there is no more thick tension to walk through, the twins seem more relaxed and happy, and i feel as though i have my life back.

when i left my husband, i explained to him why i could no longer stay. for those who haven't read my other posts, we each have kids from another and have very very different views on disapline and parenting. (read previous posts for details). i told him that i could no longer worry about police coming to my door, the school calling to say his kid was suspended, etc.. i had my kids to raise and could not raise them in this turmoil. i told him that i still considered myself married, but just couldn't live with him and his son anymore.

he helped me move and get settled in, which i told him he didn't have to, that i didn't expect it, but thanked him. i have talked to him a few times, and he has come over once, so i could sign tax forms. i thought that by moving out of the house, my feelings for him would return. sounds funny, i know. i figured by getting away from his son and how he was raising him, i could see him for the man he is and not the parent. that the feelings i had for him when i fell in love with him would return. sounds really screwed up doesn't it?

well, it isn't happening. i am thankful he doesn't call, and have no desire to call him. i don't want to talk to him or see him. i don't see him in the same way i did back when i fell in love with him. in a way i feel guilty because these feelings are gone. i don't want to hurt him, but if he isn't calling and pushing the issue, maybe i wouldn't be hurting him if i told him that my feelings are gone, and they aren't returning as i thought they would. it has only been a couple of weeks, but the more time that goes by, the more distant those feelings feel. i just have no desire for him at all anymore. i still wear my wedding ring and am wondering if i should. how can i feel so relieved, so free, so happy, but yet feel so confused, guilty, and at times depressed because i just don't know what to do. do i tell him it's over, that the feelings just aren't going to come back? do i take off my ring? if he isn't calling does that mean i can tell him it's over without feeling guilty, or worry about hurting him.

any advice or comments are welcome. i am thankful to be surrounded by such supportive and caring people. you are all so wonderful. i wish you all the best. thank you
gracetoo71