[wildloonybird]

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Hi friends.
I want some advice from you. I’m in 2nd year college (girls) going student.
My problem’s story is as following…

When I entered in college I made 3 best friends (bf…hehehe) in 1st year… 2 are girls and third 1 is a boy (who is 3 yr. Younger to me and he is a school going student. He is my online friend + phone friend. He lives in different state then of mine. I can’t able to meet him but he says me he will come to meet and I always say no to him as I’m afraid of my family that they’ll hurt him). As in my family male friends are not allowed to make by girls. So I haven’t told my dad about my friendship with him. As they said if I do so they will kill me…and blah blah blah

I have told my mom about him and she hates me because I have made a male friend and I have 3-5 online males friends and I’m member of social networking sites too. She hates whenever I talk with my college friends and with him. She says I’m going on wrong path…blah blah blah

I DON”T KNOW WHY EVERYONE THINKS THAT A GIRL AND A BOY CAN”T BE ONLY FRIENDS.
I love my all-3 best friends but but but!!!!!!

My college best friends get jealous and irritated whenever I talk with him. Well in 1st year both my college friends get jealous with him but in this year (2nd year) only one is continue with her jealousy part drama another one have understood it well that we are best friend only.

My friend who get jealous more says that I’m flat on him and she has so many questions like-why I care about him so much why I get affected if he is unhappy or if he has some problems, why I care about his feeling...blah blah blah. I tried to make her understand that he is my friend just like you as I do these same things for her too.
I get irritated whenever she starts this kind of topics (I get so much irritated that I just like to slap or abuse her but I don’t do so).
Now these days I don’t have good relations with her as I’m going through severe stress these days … I told to my friends that I hate myself and don’t like to have my photo to be clicked. And she is the only one who always wants to take my photo and whenever I say no to her she says “why are you live then?? Go to hell. Don’t start your this dam drama again…blah blah
I always give emotional support whenever she needs it. I talk with her 2hr. on phone everyday when she had breakup with her boyfriend or whenever she says something which tends to make her self-esteem low…I always there.
About this situation I talk with another college friend she told me the same situation happened to her too. She also gives emotion support to her for hours (sometimes 4 hr.)
We both come to this conclusion that she just want to gain sympathy and wanted to use us and not concern more about us.
She is always nice whenever she needs study notes from us or whenever she needs money or time. She says we both are so boring (we think so that she just want friends for gaining sympathy and entertainment).
Right after whenever she has fight with us she come to us to talk with us just because she need our study materials.
Now I don't like to help her in any ways. I hate her and i want to hurt her feelings same as she had done to me and my friend. she is so meany and selfish. I simply hate her now onwards.

What should I do now? May I end up with her friendship???

thank you for reading this
(sorry for making it so lenghty)

[AAAAA]

I don’t think your mother hates, you, I think she’s worried about your safety. I’m sure you’re old enough to know about the predators out there.

As for your college friend, it sounds very much like she’s using you. If she asks for study materials or money, tell her you’re sorry but you’re using them and can’t spare the money. When she calls and you don’t want to talk to her tell her you’re busy. There’s no need to do anything dramatic like hurt her feelings. If she asks why you’re avoiding her, I’d be honest with her. I’d tell her you’re feeling used and don’t like it.

[wildloonybird]

Originally Posted by aaaaa

i don’t think your mother hates, you, i think she’s worried about your safety. I’m sure you’re old enough to know about the predators out there.

as for your college friend, it sounds very much like she’s using you. If she asks for study materials or money, tell her you’re sorry but you’re using them and can’t spare the money. When she calls and you don’t want to talk to her tell her you’re busy. There’s no need to do anything dramatic like hurt her feelings. If she asks why you’re avoiding her, i’d be honest with her. I’d tell her you’re feeling used and don’t like it.

merry christmas dear
thanx for replying