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Dec 24, 2008, 01:48 AM
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Hello everyone. I'm highly confused and don't know what to do. I'm a 26 year old wife and mother with a husband that can be a tad abusive. He's never physically abused me, doesn't make it better; he gets verbally and emotional abusive. He says things like, "There you go playing the victim again," a word he tends to use quite often with me. Just is nasty with me a lot of the time. The wierd thing is? He's perfect with our daughter...it's only me. Makes me wonder why.
I've also been diagnosed with Bipolar I disorder about 2 years ago. Sometimes he says it's my disorder that makes me overly emotional and can't see reality for what it is. I don't know if he's using that as an excuse or what. Someone please help... |
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Dec 24, 2008, 07:40 AM
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Cleverclove have you thought about marriage counseling? I cannot think of anything worse than a husband using your issues against you. Perhaps he doesn’t know what he sounds like. Tape him yelling at you and bring it up later when you’re both calm. Let him know that this behavior is unacceptable and you will no longer tolerate it. Even if he’s not screaming at his daughter, he’s showing her that it is acceptable for her future husband to be verbally abusive to her. Try reminding him of that. Next time he goes off, ask him how he’d feel if he over heard someone speaking to his daughter in that manner.
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Dec 24, 2008, 07:51 AM
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((((((((((((((((CleverClover)))))))))))))))))))))
verbal aand emotional abuse can be just as harmful as the physical. bead also deals with this, and we are learning how to 'teach him how to treat us' and it seems to be working. its like when you start telling hubby that his hurtful comments are unacceptable, then he may quit. he has to know what is ok and what is not, and only you can teach him this. bead admit, it is hard at first, however iot does get easier with practice. dont know if you see a T or not, but if you do he\she would also be able to help you learn how to do this. feel free to pm bead if you have any questions! hope things get gooder for you quickly! sending warm fuzzies and peaceful thoughts your way, bead
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Dec 28, 2008, 05:03 PM
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