[First Impressions]

Hello everyone! This is actually my firs post. I have taken some time to read other post and I am going to like this place.
So, wondering what I am doing here I guess. Well, this is the situation.
I am married. Have been for 6 years now. Everything with my marriage is ok. We don't fight, we never argue and get along well. Sure, this sounds awesome to many people and in fact, looking from the outside, we have a wonderful marriage.\
So, the problem? I think I am in love with someone else. I have been seeing this man for 3 years now. It isn;t something we do on a daily basis. He has a wife and children and is in a very respected position. It would definite blow up if it was found out. I have tried to stop the communication with him so many times. It never works. I think I am in love with him. We (or should I say I) broke it off with him just yesterday and I already miss him so much. I am so confused. So messed up. I know the "right" thing to do but why cant I stick to it??

[Lenny]

Hi First Impressions and welcome to PC...

Emotions/feelings are strange things...we have far less control over them than we would like to think. I feel for you,,,I too was in Love once,,,very much so,,,but it was a tragedy unfolding....and Love wasn't enough to fix all that had to be fixed....

I hardly ever use the word never...but I will risk it here...Your Love with this man will never work without the foundation of honesty....with each other and with all others in your worlds. Like oil and water,,,dishonesty and Love...they simply cannot mix....and most often the result of trying is shame..deep shame.

I wish I had better news for you...it is so very hard to want Love to conquer all....

With Care,

Lenny

[sally_d]

Originally Posted by First Impressions

Hello everyone! This is actually my firs post. I have taken some time to read other post and I am going to like this place.
So, wondering what I am doing here I guess. Well, this is the situation.
I am married. Have been for 6 years now. Everything with my marriage is ok. We don't fight, we never argue and get along well. Sure, this sounds awesome to many people and in fact, looking from the outside, we have a wonderful marriage.\
So, the problem? I think I am in love with someone else. I have been seeing this man for 3 years now. It isn;t something we do on a daily basis. He has a wife and children and is in a very respected position. It would definite blow up if it was found out. I have tried to stop the communication with him so many times. It never works. I think I am in love with him. We (or should I say I) broke it off with him just yesterday and I already miss him so much. I am so confused. So messed up. I know the "right" thing to do but why cant I stick to it??

You did the right thing by breaking it off you know you did the right thing. Are you not happy in your marriage?