[salukigirl]

Oh my gosh I think I might go crazy. My boyfriend is just as moody as me! If not more so. He will wake up one day, Ill ask him to hand me my cigarettes and he will be fine. But then another day he'll say "got anymore orders to bark at me?"

One day Ill pick food off his plate and get a smile or a laugh, another day he'll flip.

Today (on christmas!) he freaked on me because he called, I didnt answer bc I was eating with my family, then texted him "whats up?" assuming there was a specific reason for him to call, not just to say hello. So he went psycho on me asking why I sent him a "half-assed" text instead of calling him back to talk for 5 minutes. Then.... less than an hour later he's not mad anymore and acts like nothing happened!

Im not sure how much of this I can take. Half the time I just wait a few minutes and say "are you done being mad and grump about nothing?". Then he denies it. And 10 minutes later he apologizes. But its very aggravating not knowing how he will take any comment or joke or anything. And its impossible to know what mood he's in until I say something to him and see how he reacts.

Can I bring this up to him how moody he is? Im afraid he'll take offense and just get mad (and moody!) towards me. He denies how moody he is all the time but never realizes how often he has to say "Im sorry for overreacting/being grumpy with you". Ugh!

[sabby]

Yeah...that sure is hard to deal with no doubt. Sorry you are both having to go through this.

How about keeping a little journal and record those "special" moments along with the apologies. Maybe having something in black and white that he cannot refute might help him "see" what's happening. Sorry, that's about the only thing I can come up with.


sabby

[skymonk]

My bf is the same way-he expects me to read his mind&doesn't care how I feel when he says something really mean. Last night I asked him if he cared about me&he yelled "Stop attacking me!" It was just a yes or no question. In his eyes I can do nothing right&am nothing. My bf doesn't apologize for anything-it's all my fault according to him because I'm the one that's mentally ill. When he's moody or nasty I'm supposed to just sit there&take it, but if so much as look at him the wrong way WWIII starts. I've given up.

[I_WMD]

Saluki ,,,, as I have said before .. " You Cool "....

Call him * crack head * .... If he says he not do drugs ,, Then tell him to quit acting like it .

Granted ,, this could turn into an argument....buuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuut,,

Ya just may get to the bottom of this ,, and maybe the ex-gf thingy ,, and ???????

Me personally ,, think [ for me anyway ] ... To not bottle it up , if I get torcked off ,, I will say why , and explain my reason/s ,, then wait and listen ( hehe ) ,, I enjoy debateing things so as to not have to go to same crap twice ,, I will allow the crap for awhile as to see if there is a pattern ... Once I am sure I have some ground to stand on ,, [ and I will use verbatim ] The others words ....or actions .... under certain circumstances ....

oh heck ... LOL .. Relationships are hard anyway you look at it >> communicateing on whatever level ,, is hard to equally achieve at same time .

WMD.

[AAAAA]

Maybe he's bipolar, or not sleeping well. I know when I flare up something you do today will irritate the heck out of me, but tomorrow it'll be fine. That food thing hits a cord. I don't like it when hubby takes food off of my plate, get your own! I don't grab from you. I don't always say anything about it, sometimes I'll just let it roll off my back, but if he's done something else that irritates me in the same time frame, it's just another log on the fire.

[Angel_of_the_Past]

You could ask him if he has "PMS" then offer him a box of Midol!

[salukigirl]

haha Ive offered him midol before. He realizes it sometimes. But like the other day I stayed at his house. I woke up really early and couldn't fall back asleep and had some stuff to do. So I didn't want to wke him up so I left a note next to his bed saying that I was going to run some errands and didn't want to wake him and I love you etc... Well apparently that was the wrong thing to do! He got so mad saying I "bailed" on him! and I was like "what the hell?! I didn't want to wake you up!"

Eventually he always says "Im sorry for being a jerk earlier" but its just annoying that it even happens in the first place. He knows that I wont apologize if I don't feel Ive done something wrong, and neither will he. So we just apologize for getting into it and get it over with.

He doesnt treat me like you said, skymonk. I know he cares about me and loves me, he just gets moody sometimes. Thanks everyone.