In a dielmma

Ok em i wont go into too much detail...
Em... well i've been with my bf for 2 years now.. through aload of bad things involving his ex and him and bla bla blah... anyway..... I've been talking to a guy off of one of my fish forums. and ive met this guy aswell... and he rreaally likes me alot... and to an extent i like him too and if i wasnt in a relationship i would try and be with him..
A few nights back i broke up with my bf because things havent been very good lately.. like i dont see sim much anymore ... and when i do all he does is go on the computer and we don't do things anymore.. like go out and things.
Well after doing so this guy came onto MSN and i told him how i felt about him but made it clear that i wasnt sure if id get back with my bf....... But eventually i did get back with him because i didnt want to hurt him because i do love him eventho things are looking bad.
But because i told this guy how i felt for him.. he's kinda gone and got some advice to refreign from contacting me in anyway to 'get over me' because im back with my boyfriend.

So i need some advice because i feel like i love this guy but then i also love my bf too which is twisted because ive been ripping myself up over what to do next..
can anyone help?

Hi Hazel Eyes,

From reading your post it sounds like the situation has sorted itself out, but you are feeling bad about leading someone on and maybe hurting him.

It's a sign of your kindness that you are worried about it. I hope things work out with your boyfriend.

Good luck, Myzen.

Have you spent any time with the guy on-line in real life? I ask this because the fact is until you spend time with him in real life what you have with him is ficticious. He could in reality be anyone. It is easy to set up a persona on-line and maintain it for a extremely long time because when you don't feel like you can hold the persona you just don't get on-line.

Your boy friend however is real. You know the truth about who he is, how he acts in the long term and his real life personality problems.

I have lived through this situation. The suduction of the on-line man who has the ability to limit interaction with you to only the times when he is the "proper" mood is irresitable because he can always say the right things because he doesn't have to think on his feet and through mix emotions. He doesn't have to cope with the every day stresses of a relationship. He just comes in when he is in his best suit and says what we want to hear. It is easy to love this man.

It is not so easy for the "live" boyfriend who must respond immediatly in the face of your anger. Who has to try to make things work when he just isn't up to it at the moment.

I am not saying what you should or shouldn't do. Just trying to put some perspective.
Good luck.
Carrie