Afraid

I am separated from my husband. We've only been married since May 2008. We've been apart since July, trying to work things out over the phone. Now he is about to send for me to come back so we can try again. The thing is, he acts so irrational that I'm almost afraid to be so far from my family and friends with just him as the one person I am close to in a new place.

He is super jealous and suspects every little thing that I do. That's one of the things we have talked about & he says he will try to be better, but he still has his moods.

In one way, I don't think that he really is as jealous and suspicious as he acts; I think that he may be playing a little head game to be in control of things. Recently, I quit reacting to his taunts. Where before, I would try to convince him that I'm not doing anything, now I just tell him that if he doesn't trust me, that if he thinks I am being unfaithful, then he shouldn't want to be with me. That always backs him down - but only until the next time.

I really want to try to make my marriage work, but in a way, I am terrified of going where I'll be so dependent on him until I have time to get on a job and support myself without him. Before we got separated, I was completely dependent on him & I've never been in that position before. Now all I can do is look up support groups in the area as a backup before I get there.

I don't know what I should do.

You said you want to make your marriage work right? Why, not try to go to marriage counceling? that was you both can understand each other better.