[AngelinaJ]

I am new to this site, so I would like to say hello to every 1 first of all.

I don't know where to start actually, me and my boyfriend have a very good relationship, it is very strong. Sometimes it is not so good, not bad, but annoying, if that makes sense. My boyfriend does do a lot for me, but sometimes I feel as though I am ignored, so I have mentioned this many times to him, and he says he will pay more attention, then things do not change, so I mention it again, and he will get in a mood and not talk to me. This is what has happened this time, something happened over the weekend and I told him that I felt like I am second best and that he doesn't care. That he is being selfish and that I should start being selfish. Because I always put him first and i am always thinking of him, but it does not seem like he does the same. And he said that I am being silly and saying stupid things. Now yesterday evening he didn't say a word to me and he left for work this morning without saying anything. I am guessing he is hurt by what I said, that is why he is giving me the silent treatment, or it is because I have said it a few times before he has had enough of me talking about it. I just do not know what to do. I love him so much and he does do a lot for me.

What should I do?

Thank you.

x

[Puffyprue]

Originally Posted by AngelinaJ

I am new to this site, so I would like to say hello to every 1 first of all.

I don't know where to start actually, me and my boyfriend have a very good relationship, it is very strong. Sometimes it is not so good, not bad, but annoying, if that makes sense. My boyfriend does do a lot for me, but sometimes I feel as though I am ignored, so I have mentioned this many times to him, and he says he will pay more attention, then things do not change, so I mention it again, and he will get in a mood and not talk to me. This is what has happened this time, something happened over the weekend and I told him that I felt like I am second best and that he doesn't care. That he is being selfish and that I should start being selfish. Because I always put him first and i am always thinking of him, but it does not seem like he does the same. And he said that I am being silly and saying stupid things. Now yesterday evening he didn't say a word to me and he left for work this morning without saying anything. I am guessing he is hurt by what I said, that is why he is giving me the silent treatment, or it is because I have said it a few times before he has had enough of me talking about it. I just do not know what to do. I love him so much and he does do a lot for me.

What should I do?

Thank you.

x

if you feel ur bf does alot for you thats means for me he never ignored you...and if you really love him so much try to love him without excpecting anything in return so whatever u do for him just because u love to do that....hugs for you

[prettyjolie]

aw. I know how you feel. My husband does soooo much for me but sometimes he's not that affectionate with me. You didn't mention exactly how he ignores you or how you feel like you're second best.. like does he choose others over you? Or would he rather play a sport/video game rather than watch a movie with you?

I think you realize that he does a lot for you but you just don't think it's enough.. you know what? You need to learn to appreciate him more. Even though you do realize that he does a lot for you, you're not really appreciating him and thanking him. And so he doesn't want to go any further since he doesn't get a positive response from you and it's never enough anyway.
Maybe your standards are a little too high. This is something that I've had to deal with because I expect my husband to be perfect, to always want to cuddle and be with me.. but I don't realize that he's human and he has other desires, wants, and needs. Maybe you need to realize this, and stop expecting so much. He's gonna start feeling like nothing he does is ever good enough.

And trust me, you don't want him to feel that way because he will simply give up.