[Berries]

Is there such a thing as a healthy relationship?

Is there such a thing as having someone in your life who loves, supports, cares and doesn't abuse you?

Is there such a thing as that for anyone?

Is there such a thing as that for mentally ill people--people with DXes?

I've never been in a relationship like that.

I've never known anyone in a healthy relationship, even if it isn't downright abusive.

Is it even a reality?

[nowheretorun]

people can try....

[Berries]

I am not trying to be cynical or sarcastic.

I am truly curious. I am hoping there is such a thing.

I just have never experienced it or seen it, except on TV and the movies.

So, I was just wondering if anybody on PC has it or has seen it.

[cantstopcrying]

Seen it, never had it.

[ncguynva]

Not that I have seen...but thats just me

[AAAAA]

I'm so sorry that you've never been in a healthy relationship.

[Rhapsody]

I think its possible..... and I have seen it.

[AAAAA]

I live it. I think I have been very lucky, but I also think it's from knowing that I deserve someone that treats me well. My parent's relationship was not healthy for many many years. I would have never brought children into the situation I was raised in. Even when I felt worthless, I was perfectly able to make myself miserable I knew I didn't need someone else treating me that way. But again I was lucky enough to have an Aunt that not only told me how relationships should be, I saw how she and my Uncle treated each other. She knew back before it was common knowledge that the cycle had to be broken and she did everything she could to give me a fighting chance.

It hasn't alwasy been easy. Before I sought medication I went through an angry period, I would never dream of taking that out on my children so he bore the brunt. He took it all with love and patience.

[nowheretorun]

AAAAA i think its great that you and hubby are a very healthy match for each other i believe it can happen!

[dottie]

There is such a thing. Rare...but a reality.

Originally Posted by Lbien6

Is there such a thing as a healthy relationship?

Is there such a thing as having someone in your life who loves, supports, cares and doesn't abuse you?

Is there such a thing as that for anyone?

Is there such a thing as that for mentally ill people--people with DXes?

I've never been in a relationship like that.

I've never known anyone in a healthy relationship, even if it isn't downright abusive.

Is it even a reality?

[turquoisesea]

I think I'm lucky, I think I'm in a generally healthy relationship. We have our troubles here and there like anyone, but we love eachother and we respect eachother. The little things we do by accident are getting worked out, for instance sometimes because he always loves ot have me come with him places he would give me a sad face, or something ... in a way it was guilt tripping and he didnt' even mean to. But we talked about it, and now he corrects himself and everythings better. So I guess, I do believe it exists, I think huge parts of it is about communication. Because communication enables the "not so healthy" part of any relationship to be fixed, as long as you have communication AND love/respect.
I have lots of mental issues - depression has been crazy, I've been dissociation alot, and I'm living with him so he sees it all. But we're making it through.

sending hugs and hoping everyone can find a healthy relationship to be in

[ihateit]

Is there such a thing as a healthy relationship? In a word, yes!

Is there such a thing as having someone in your life who loves, supports, cares and doesn't abuse you? I wold never abuse anyone, my wife has a coulple of problems she's working on with her T, and I totally am in support of her and help her all I can, so she can move past her problems and get better, and of course I love her, very, very much, I wouldn't be with her, married to her, if I didn't. Especially in a marriage, if you take your vows seriously, "In sickness and in health" ... that to me says it all.

Is there such a thing as that for anyone? We have had our problems, even almost a divorce after 11 years together, but through patience, learning about ourselves and our problems, we have worked through them, and our marriage is getting stronger day by day, so yeah, there is.

Is there such a thing as that for mentally ill people--people with DXes? Like I said, we both have something, I am Anxiety/Panic with a plethora of phobias...but Anxiety/Panic leads to other problems, anger, being controlling, as much as other disorders lead to other things...she has her issues, but we learn about them, realize our mistakes and have moved on, the person you're with has to realize that you have problems, hell, we all do in one way or another, and if they love you, they will help you through your bad times with what you need.

I've never been in a relationship like that. I feel bad, becuase it's out there, truly it is.

I've never known anyone in a healthy relationship, even if it isn't downright abusive. Abusive isn't a healthy relationship in any way shape or form. And maybe you hang with the wrong peeps. I know a lot of people that have healthy relationships, but remember healthy doesn't mean they haven't had their fair share of fights, ups and downs, and major problems...what matters is how they reacted to them and worked through them.

Is it even a reality? Again, yes, it is a reality, not everyone is willing to deal with people with mental issues because of the stigma and the labels society had put upon us. Many don't find out about a problem 'til it's too late and then walk away unwilling to help. But for those who know who their partner is, and love them, yes, they stay, they help, and work through problems together.

I hope you can find it, it's there. God bless!

[AAAAA]

Very well said ihateit! A healthy relationship does not mean one that is problem free.

[alas]

Hi,

I think there is, I was in one for 5 years. We were great together, supporting and loving, not once were we ever in an argument where we called eachother names or anything like that...

I hope you find this and don't settle for anything less than being treated like gold.

alas

yes there is such a thing......

[notz]

Yes, even as rotten angry as I have been with my spouse today...all that you ask is possible!

Let it start with you. Love you. Nurture you. Beguile yourself.

notz