Should I?

Its been a few years since I've been back to this place and feel I need others to help me. I didn't know where else to post this situation of mine but I figured this is probably the closes it can it.

I'm turning 27 in a few months, in the middle of my BA social work program and now I'm in the mist of deciding should I move back home with my parents and two younger siblings. My reasons to move home is merely for financial reasons. There's no more financial assisant for the summer session and I need to take 3-5 different classes and each class is about $450 and not including books. I have limited income of only $900 a month and my rent takes half of that already. Next its time for me to renewal my lease and they are raising it for an additional $50. Every dollar counts especially with my limited income. I can't afford my rent in the long run.

There are reasons why I left home years ago and actually I was forced out of my parents home. I'm scared to go back home and make myself even more vulnerable of getting hurt and disappointed. My parents and I never got along and the three of us grew up always trying to fight whos right and has the power. We have a long history of emotional and physical abuse but as the years passed and everyone moving out my father have changed accept that he still has a drinking problem. I'm worried that if I get placed back into those familiar situations that I wouldn't be able to stop myself from getting upset.

My main issue is how do I move back home and simply not care. I've planned it out that I'll live in my room as though I'm renting a room from a stranger, which I've done before. All of my siblings are concerend and question me if this is what I really want to do. They also dont want to see me always fighting with my parents. My cousin tells me I should take out another student loan to simply pay for my rent but I dont want to take out another loan until I'm in my master program. He also doesn't want me to move back home bc he see how much better I am doing and he doesn't want me to risk that by moving back home. I know my parents would let me move back but the final decisions lies with me.

This is a predicament for you. How about looking to get a place with a roommate that can share the rent and other expenses? How about asking a friend to move in together? Is there on-campus housing you could get? Maybe you could speak with a financial aid officer and see if there are options for you in that realm?

I think I would look into anything and everything before making a decision to move back home where you know there will be issues. I would keep home as a total last resort.

Open your mind to different possibilities.....talk to others and network and see what you can find

Wishing you well!


sabby

I agree with sabby.

Its really hard to move back in with parents when you are an adult. I would try an exhaust all other possibilities first. Maybe you could pick up some extra money by tutoring?

Good Luck

Possum

The problem with this is that they're not a stranger. And even though you're an adult, I'm sure they still see you as a child. I've moved back home with my parents and we'd had a pretty decent relationship prior to that, but it was very difficult living with people that treated me like I was 12 after I'd been on my own for so many years. It nearly permanently destroyed our relationship.

Have you been able to sit down with your parents and discussed the trouble from the past and why it happened?