[confusedgurl08]

I have been married for 7 years now to the most wonderful man in the world. I love him with all my heart and soul. I wouldn't trade what we have for anything in the world. I have never been attracted to anyone else since we have been together ,UNTIL NOW. I recently met a friend of one of my husbands friends, and we have all been hanging out every weekend. When I saw him I just thought he was so breathtaking gorgeous. His eyes mesmerize me. I would never in a million years cheat on my husband or act on my impulses. I do have dreams about this person though. I'm just wondering if it is wrong to be attracted to someone, when you are happily married, and is it wrong to be dreaming about this man??? I feel like I have already cheated in my mind. I feel awful.

As long as you don't act on it I don't see it as a problem, its making a move on him that would be out of order !

I would tell my hubby how I felt as I am extreamly open and possibly try to avoide being near him especialy on my own. I am not advising you to tell your hubby as only you can be the judge of how he would react. Some men/woman would be very upset and hurt by knowing while others like me would fine it 'amusing'.

Also there is a chance your hubby has realised somthing is not right if he is with you while you are with him, I know I would realise but then again I look for this sort of thing as I am nosy lmao.

Good luck hope things settle down for you.

[ihateit]

I agree for the most part with Tishie. I find it hard to find anything other than another woman good looking, I don't have sexual thoughts about other women, and my wife and I are open enough as well to be able to say what do you think about him/her. I suppose if I did have those kinds of thougts though, I would tell her, I don't like hiding anything from her and like Tishie says, I know I would notice my wife acting diff.

[AAAAA]

(((confused))) you're married, not dead. Wouldn't it be nice if we could control our dreams! Why do you feel guilty about finding someone else attractive? There's nothing to feel guilty about.

[turquoisesea]

You haven't cheated on him.

My boyfriend and I often discuss who we think is "cute" or whatever... it's natural to have that kind of reaction. As long as you are open about it, still love your husband and do not cheat with him, you're ok.

[prettyjolie]

I don't think it's wrong.. It sucks but you can't really help it. I've had dreams like that too.. it's weird and once i have no idea who the guy in my dream was..

I don't tell my husband. I don't think we've gotten to the point where either of us would accept the other liking someone else.

But if you are, then tell him.
Just don't do anything that you are going to regret.. don't spend any time alone with this guy, and don't develop any type or friendship with him.. avoid forming an emotional relationship with him.. because then, you'd really be in trouble.

good luck! =D

[confusedgurl08]

Thank you everyone for your advice. I am never alone with him, my hubby is always with us, since it is his friend. I would never act on any of my feelings. I am very happily married and would do nothing to risk losing what I have. Recently when we have the chance to hang out with this guy, I have said to hubby, I just want to stay home tonight. But I guess I do agree that it is natural to find others attractive, we are human after all. I am sure my hubby has thought another woman was attractive before. Anyways thank you again!

[youOme]

It's in human nature to lust. As long as you don't act on your feelings, you'll be alright.