No support

I have no support from my family. My mother is cruel to me in all ways. I am 23 years old and she treats me like I am infantile. With the situation in her life she has no room to judge me. She's a junkie who treats everyone like ****. She doesn't care for any one but herself. She's constantly bashing me by telling me I abondened my children (I left my husband, but still have partial custody of children). Recently my mother physically attacked me for sitting on her computer and filling out a job application. Twenty three years old and this woman continues to abuse me and treat me like dog **** on the bottom of her shoe. Would it be wrong of me to rid this negativity out of my life? I despise who she is and worse, who she has become. Yes, my mother was a horrible mother when I was younger. She abondened me when I was 12, left me as a ward of the state. I forgave her thinking she would love and support me, I did not look back. But how is this expected of me when she treats me the way she does? I almost hate her. Hate is such a strong description of my feeling, but dammit, I think I do.

Long ago I told ya'll that my sister had abondened her baby with me. Well, she did come back eventually, got her **** together for the most part.... but it is happening again. I've had that child for the last two weeks and everyday she asks me to keep him another day. Yesterday she pretty much implied that she couldn't do it anymore. I do NOT have the means to take on another child. Between me and my boyfriend we already care for three, with my nephew it's four. But I will NOT turn that child away, he needs me. I would get benefits for him, but I fear if I take those away from my sister...she'll starve. I can just never do enough no matter how much good I try to do.

I moved closer to my Mom and sister (they live a couple blocks from one another) and my life has turned into hell since. I have entered a depression from all the stress and hopeless negativity that radiates from these people....the people I call my family. What the hell?!?

You know, I run to my step dad, (the only half way rational one left) and he has lost all compassion too. My mother has sucked the goodness out of this man and turned him into a cold darwinistic a hole.

I feel alone here.... I just wanted to get that weight off of me... thanks for hearing me out.

((((((youOme))))))

An abusive relationship is not tolerable, from husband, boyfriend, mother, father, anyone. If it were me, and I usually don't give ultimatums, I would here. Get your **** together, go to rehab, and get better, or you will totally cut her out of your life. If that doesn't work, then stay out of her life.

Your sister - I would keep the child and report her to child services, but that's me. I don't know if they would make the child a ward of the state or let you keep her as you're the aunt. If they would make the child a ward, I would keep quiet, but tell my sister the same thing. He's not your child, you love him very much and am glad to take care of him, when you can, but he's her responsibilty, and unless she's willing to give him up completely and to never see him again, she better get her **** together.

I don't know ... that's me, and that is how I would react. Not out of anger or hate, I can't hate anyone, no matter what they do or have done to me, but because I care, but at the same time, you have to remember what they have done/are doing and let them know what's up. No one deserves to be driven to depression from anyone.

GL and God bless!

dont give up on you ((You)))) which of them is going to be the one to congratulate you on your new self? which of them is going to hold your hand and comfort you in the down times? which of them is hearing you now.. choose your friends wisely.. the family will just have to understand and if they cannot, who is worse off?

My situation with my mother isn't even close to the one with yours, and I've decided to not talk to her anymore. You sound like an intelligent person with bad circumstances. As far as advice goes I don't think I can offer any, only my support of your decision, whatever it may be.

It's so hard to admit that someone that should love you unconditionally is toxic to you. Once you come to that conclusion, you have no other choice imo except to remove her from your life.

As to your nephew, you have to think of him first, his needs before his mother's. His mother is an adult that can fend for herself.

((((UOME))) so glad u did get that out....it sounds like you are feeling overwhelmed and i understand why!!! lots of major decisions to make and also first on the list, take care of you. without you taking care of u first, the other good intentions u may have may not be able to happen. so please try to be kind to yourself as you would a good friend who is going thru such a difficult time as u right now. i don't know u like many others but do u have a t? with so much going on you might be able to use a t as a soundling board, plus get some good coping skiills with all those family members around u.
the decisions you are facing are important as you well know. jme, but i'd take my time to make the best ones for you and for your neph. he's lucky to have such a caring aunt.but to do that u need to be in a good spot and tkaing care of your "self."
your sister is a grown woman and her choices may differ from ones to improve her life. idk, but you can't change her, but your neph will need the monetary support she now receives for him more, imho. i understnad how hard it is to worry about a sibling too but a gentle reminder she is making her choices. your neph is too young to make a choice and needs financial sercurity as well as constancy n his life. sounds like you are willing to undertake that if u can.
unfotunately your mom is truly sick with an addiction. not letting her off the hook on that cause she too can make choices to improve her life. right now her behavior is a direct result of her addiction. sometimes distancing ourselves from loved ones out of control are the best ways to deal with their "insanity".
just wanted to reposnd to your post. i have no quick solutions but i don't feel u were expecting that anyway. feel free to rant all you need to...i will listen and i know others will too.
please keep us Posted on how things are going, k? we care about you.