NEGATIVE Partner......Grrrrr

Wanting to VENT about a partner that has become so NEGATIVE that most of his life - 80% of his day (24/7) imo is spent b*tching & complaining about any thing and every thing................ WHY oh WHY?

I am surely losing my sanity living with this man - the one I love and gave my heart to so many years ago when he was a nice and loving soul.

My partner spends 80% of his day sleeping and then whinges when hes awake. Id rather listen to him whinge tho, for some reason it drives me nuts when hes asleep all the time, i must be jealous cos i dont get to sleep. I hope things will work out between the 2 of you. Have u tried talking to him about the way he acts? Best of luck and hope ur happier soon =)

Oh YES we have talked and talked and then talked some more over the last five years.... and I feel a lot like the old saying goes "you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink" - and the same goes for trying to help people chill out and not take things so serious or let the small things stress them so.

It is just so stressful having to listen to some one complain all the time... *pulling hair out*

{{{{{{{{Rhapsody}}}}}}}} I understand. My h does the same thing, only he complains to everyone about everything, not just me. At home he is so annoying, even my son says all he does is complain.

Wishing us both the strength to deal with it.........

Mary Alice

My boyfriend can be like that. That's why I'm on here!

I love the boy so much, but his depression is killing me. I don't know what to do or say. I don't want to end things, especially now, and after all we have been through.

Negativity and depression go hand in hand, I guess. All we can do is be there to support and love our men!

Thanks for understanding and for letting me know that I am not the only wife that is going through this with their beloved spouse.... I just wish it was not a 24/7 thing so I could recoup emotionally before the next episode hits... its hard to cherish the one you love when all you hear is negative b*itching and complaining, even if its not against you.

I am starting to see why couples get divorced after 20 to 30 years of being married... they do it for their own sanity & happiness.

Rhap , ? ..... maybe ask hubby to put a little humor into his b*tching & complaining . [using sarcasm] .
At least that way you can join in [and possibly imitate] , and have a bit of LOL with it .
Hopefully in awhile he will see the little stuff is just that .

WMD.
Good Luck with the thirsty horse ... LOL.

rhapsody, i'm wondering what's really going on with your hubby. something is really bothering him i believe and it's coming out "sideways" as i call it. he's angry or depressed about something and he's venting but not about the very thing he's upset over. just a thought....hope this helps.

I agree 100% - and my husband and I have talked about this many times over the last few years with no resolution at hand, hence why I am posting about it here... so I can get some relief for myself since it seems that my husband has done nothing but become a very one sided angry man that hates life, work and all that comes with it - people are jerks with in his mind that exist with out caring for others.

I just have to be honest and say that he is finally getting on my nerves with all his complaining and I do not know how much more I can take or want to take of it........ *sigh*

(p.s. - note: this behavior has been going on for two years straight)

keep us posted, will u?

Oh you bet I will..... this thread was made by me for inner relief and I know that comes through talking.