[jlseattle]

Hi, I'm in the process of ending my relationship. I always knew this day was coming but now it is here. In the past I have ended a the relationship with my spouse and then gotten back together. What techniques can I use to really end it? My spouse does have an anger issue and I'm kind of worried that at some point I will need to call the police if it gets out of hand. Any help or feed back would be greatly appreciated. I'm preparing to stick to my guns and not fall back into the relationship (for my sanity and safety).

One idea I have to to break up and move out at some point in the future. The thought of moving out while he is here is unbearable (I've tried it before).

Some of things that I don't like about our relationship:

1) He uses anger to control me
2) Money to control me
3) Doesn't trust me.

[sweetpea_tx]

That's why I left my bf of a year... and he slapped me... and I ran away. I took him back, he got physical on a couple other occaisions, and now its done. I'm lonely as h3ll... I moved cities when I left and know no one. Stay strong, stick to your guns... mine used the same 3 things yours does.

[valexand]

Wow. What a bad situation. I'm so sorry to read about your story. This sounds like a dangerous place to be. Definitely leave.

Do you have some close friends? Maybe you can tell them to remain out of the house just in case you signal them that something is going wrong with your spouse's response? Is this an idea? Maybe they can call the police for you or at least intervene as a group if something happens...

He uses anger and money to control you plus he doesn't trust you. This isn't a relationship. You're like a prisoner. Not healthy. If he is as dangerous as he sounds, once you've told him that you want out....pack your stuff and leave the state! Erase your tracks so that he could never find you again. Start your life again.

Good luck.