I don't want step-parents any more...

This doesn't mean I want my parents to get back together...by any means. I got over those feelings a long time ago. But life was so much more simple when I only had a mother, and a father, and a brother. So we all had our moments...everyone does. But I never doubted that they loved me. Now, on top of them I have to deal with two other people, both in my eyes being unstable. (my step dad changes his mind more often then he changes his socks, which wouldn't be such a problem if he wasn't so passionate about everything. I really like my to-be step mom except she is such a fragile person a lot of times it's like walking on eggshells around her.) and it doesn't help whenever I butt heads with either of them my dad without question immediately leaps to her side no matter what because he doesn't want to lose her, and my mom just sort of fizzles into the background...can't say that I blame her though, she's just dodging lightning bolts until the storm is over because god knows if she says anything when he's upset she get's the same crap treatment as everyone else involved. I know it's selfish for me to feel this way but screw what my age is. I've been trying my whole childhood to be an adult and when I stopped trying to be an adult everyone started yelling at me for being too childish.

You are NOT being selfish, families, in their truest form, should really all be without all the step-fathers step-mothers step-sisters step-brothers..I know FIRSTHAND...Kaika I was soo hurt by my stepmother and stepsisters I have written here about it and they nearly killed mentally...if you have no problems with step-siblings on top of that well that's one good thing..step-this step-that!!

You sound sooo much mature then I was at your age...I love reading what you write, I admire you!

Perhaps when your around each individual parent WITHOUT THEIR SPOUSE you could talk to them in private about how you feel.....that you never had doubts of their love before this....that you count, too, in the midst of their blooming love lives they should not forget _Kaika!!

Remember you are so loved here!

Thank you June

I thought it was a selfish thought because then they probably wouldn't be happy without somebody besides their kids in their lives. The deserve to have a spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend/lover/whatever in their lives if they want one (which they always have).

Well, I havn't told them because I know that my dad gets really defensive and I'd rather not get him really upset. If I told my mom...she would just tell my step dad anyways. I mean, she already knows that we aren't getting along right now, and she just tells me I'm going to have to learn how to cope. I've known him since I was six or so... they were together for about a year before he listened to his kids tell lies about my mom and they broke up...and a few years later they got back together and got married and here we are. My dad has known my to-be stpemom for about 4 years now and purposed to her some time last year, but they have no wedding plans at the moment so who knows how long they are going to stay engaged before actually getting married.

On my stepdad's side I have a stepbrother, who we havn't contacted for years and it's sort of a good thing given his history of abusing people...and two stepsisters, one that I'm pretty neautral towards...she's really nice...but we don't have much in common...and my other stepsister is awesome. She's like the best person ever on my to-be stepmom's side I have two brothers, one I've hardly met because he's in college downstate. He's a nice guy, a bit mellow...but less so then his brother, who...is a super mellow kind of guy, and he's a little on the weird side...in both the good and the bad way. So over all I like my stepbrother's and sisters...(who by the way, are all older then me!)