[YoMunchee]

Hello All!

Lately I've felt that I am not able to communicate with others. It's ridiculous; I feel like I'm back in 7th grade or something (I'm 24 now). I've been avoiding all social situations because I feel like I'm gonna say something stupid or just stand there awkwardly with nothing to say.

I think I'm in need of some new "good" friends. The people I hang out with don't give me the feeling they want to help me. It feels like they just ignore my problems and me altogether.

I am not good at conversating for I am still a very shy person, who gets very tense when talking with others.

Can you guys please give me some tips to go out and meet new people.
And what do I say?!?

Thx All!

[Rhapsody]

A friendly SMILE is always a good place to start.... it lets others know that you are welcoming them into your space, then follow with a "how are you today"

[Umm_kelly]

Originally Posted by YoMunchee

Can you guys please give me some tips to go out and meet new people.
And what do I say?!?

The best thing for meeting people that I've found is to appear confident and interesting. I used to be extremely shy, and sometimes I revert back to that shyness, but nowdays I've become comfortable with myself. You can always start off a conversation with a silly comment about a situation you find yourself in with others.

The most important thing is to be confident about yourself and your opinions. You are an interesting person. You are completely worth striking up a random conversation with. Believe that and it will get you far with people.

If you're feeling really shy you might not look shy to other people. You might look tense and anti-social, and people don't want to take the risk of trying to talk to a tense anti-social person.

Also, do not settle for someone who pulls the same crap as your old friends. It might take a while to attract a new kind of person, but it's obviously worth it. And you know you've got all of us here at Psychcentral.

I was going through the same thing as you for several months. Trying to push away old friends who were bad for me, and trying to collect new ones who really cared about me. Now I actually have people who truely care about me, and it shocks me every day.

I hope that my advice helped you out a little bit.

[Bubblewrap]

I agree, you can always start off quiet anyway, I personally don't consider myself a shy person, but I used to be very shy. I usually still start off a little quiet just to see what kind of person they are, so then i know what kind of stuff they do like to talk about because I don't want to say anything to affend them, even on occasion if I do there is normally a way you can save yourself. Just trust and have faith in yourself, startng off a little quiet in a converation never hurt anybody, once you get warmed you'll be okay.