[northern]

OK! Guy! might not be the right place but could not find a place to vent my concerns. So very peeved by this.

I previously was on another site regarding Mental Health. After many days trying to find a place for me, to have a say and of course read where others had doubts and experinces.

I responded to a Relationship & communication issue. The thread was basically about how the younger generation rely solely on texting & email to communicate! Which is OK for mundane things like 'Where are you?' I am here and can not find you? etc. or a simple 'Happy Birthday' or 'That's OK. for something like 'I meet you then on date & time'.

But it was in my opinion, that no one should rely only on texting or emailing, as their only recourse of communication between people.

All I has said was that IMO! too the person, was that you need to actually talk to that person either in person or by phone. And if they did not want too do that, then what where they crying about?

Reading a text or email meant they where not getting the actually facts regarding the relationship eg: We all read something into what we read and might not mean what the other person meant etc.......

I then got 'Becareful of what you say' etc by a moderator which I replied, 'Is that a threat'? as I felt it was. I had not called anyone names nor did I call anyone stupid.

To then have all my next posts removed by said 'Moderator' and now too date have been 'BANNED FOR LIFE' from that site...............

There has been too date no explaination, nor has there been any reseason WHY!

I have been given no short term time eg: for a period of time you will not be able to post, but in the mean time you can read posts. I have posted to the site asking for 'A Please Explain' but have yet to recieve any correspondence from that site. According to the site 'I have been banned for Life' Great for asking the question' Is that a threat?'

Sorry! But I can not see where I posted something Sooo.......!!! wrong too warrant being banned for life.

Stating one's opinion IMO! should not warrant such harsh reprimand from any site.

Anyone one else had problems?

[pegasus]

Hugs

I'm sorry you had that experience else where.

Psych Central is the best support forum you can find, stick with us!

[sabby]

Reading a text or email meant they where not getting the actually facts regarding the relationship eg: We all read something into what we read and might not mean what the other person meant etc.......

You possibly nailed your problem right on the head with the above statement. Posting on a forum IMO is no different than texting/emailing. There is no body language/facial expressions/inflection of voice for anyone to go by when reading posted words.

It's quite possible that your post was taken out of your context when read. Although from what you have said here, it does sound like there could have been a better way to work through this on the moderators end of things. Then again, we don't know what their rules/guidelines are for posting and dealing with member issues either.

I'm sorry you are so upset over this situation. I do hope that you find your time here at PC supportive, informative and friendly.

Take good care!

sabby

[SeptemberMorn]

Umm... yeah... I wouldn't ask any moderator here or admin "Is that a threat?" That, in itself is argumentative to me.

I hope you have a better experience here. This IS the best place on the web.

[northern]

Would have to say, what I read on this forum is much more mature and way more helpful

At least an IMO is given a chance before being delete.

I as a poster is considered worth reading, even if that is not what the oringinal poster would like to read.

Here it has been with a much more mature look on lifeSo very happy finding a site that deals with all of our life issues.....whether that might not what would some like see typed & or hear from others.........

I read in that post on the other site, that the young girl was in fact committing a 'Staking attidude' towards her special friend, being a Guy (being the Q was it a male she has a sexually relationship or not, or whether it was one she hoped for????)

So then my comments regards to ' Do not rely upon texting & email being the only way to communicate. Phone them or see them in person was IMO! only going to get results.

And if they failed to respond then that was the answer..........After many many texts.......No answer!!!.............after many emails, still no answer!!!!..................What does that actually mean?

It was the basic Q I asked. IMO! they did not want further contact and if they did not want to phone and actually talk to the person via phone or in person, then what did they expect etc?

At no point did I say she was a stalker, nor did I imply she was silly in her believe that she loved this Guy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! beyond all else......Clearly as an older person, probably being older enough to her grandmother....I thought A direct approach eg: speak too them was going too get results....

And if they did not what to go down that road, by talking to them by phone or in person, then why? where they crying about the situation etc....IMO!........

[Behindthemoon]

i have actully had that kind of experience before...On some websites mods could be very arbitrary but its not the case here.Well, you wont have an explantion for anything even though you didnt do anything wrong you know because its just too hard for people to apologize.
Hugs.welcome here

[northern]

Originally Posted by SeptemberMorn

Umm... yeah... I wouldn't ask any moderator here or admin "Is that a threat?" That, in itself is argumentative to me.

I hope you have a better experience here. This IS the best place on the web.

Why do you feel that you couldn't ask that Q?...........even on this site...IMO! Everyone is entitle to ask and answer a Q!

I see your point but 'If I ask...'Is that a threat?' then to add why I believed, my answer was not a threat to the person whom posted, then why have I been banned for life? To see my last post, less than afew minutes on the site before being deleted, one would need to asks Q's

To date I am unable to even read what others might have post to the site. Can not even read anyones post, not even in other areas not related to what I was responding too!

As to todays date 'I am banned for life' and too date I have still not recieved an explaination as to WHY I CAN NOT POST TO THAT SITE!.

Still to recieve why such a harse response from a Moderator etc..was dealt.

[salukigirl]

One time I was on a forum about animals, all kinds, because I'm a zoologist. A question was asked where the answer involved a great deal of evolution etc... and the website was ran by a lot of christians who didn't want to hear that answer. So they kicked me off the site and started bad mouthing me like crazy. Forums are privately owned websites so, depending on the preference of the moderators, you can get kicked off for just about anything.

I didn't get a warning either like a nice "we would appreciate it if you wouldn't answer questions with information about evolution", they just simply blocked me. They were people that would ask a question but only wanted the answers that they liked. So if you ever gave them an answer that wasn't what they wanted, they flipped. Don't worry about it. People here are much more open.

And here we understand that people have good days and bad days. Weve all said things we didn't mean because we were stressed etc... its a MENTAL HEALTH website. that's what it's here for lol