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Apr 17, 2009, 02:15 PM
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My gym is normally a peaceful place where everyone gets along. Recently, a female has been coming in to socialize with one of the guys.. or some of the guys, I'm not sure? Anyway, she walks around giving all the women dirty looks. She is very unfriendly and just creates a bad vibe.
Personally I would like to kick her *** but I'm guessing that isn't the best way to deal with her. However, I really think I would derive a lot of pleasure by beating her down. Anyway, I tried to be friendly to her but she was snotty back to me so I pretty much ignore her now. The thing that sucks is that my gym isn't fun when she is there. There are a few other people who have said things about her too so I know I'm not the only one that feels this way. How can I deal with her negative attitude and still enjoy my time at the gym? Any thoughts? |
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Apr 18, 2009, 05:18 AM
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Perhaps her negative attitude stems from something we all deal with here, mental illness, or some form of it....you could consider your time at the gym a sociological experiment, for entertainment value, wonder, hmmmmm what will she do next? Keep up your boundary while simply observing, and knowing in comparison you have made different, more mature choices...............
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Apr 18, 2009, 01:54 PM
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I can't understand why she's bothering you....whatever she does at the gym is her own business...you can't rule others...you can't tell them what to do or who to talk or what to wear!!!! C'mon....this is really bad....you got to move on and don't pay attention to that lady....people are everywhere...people that we like or we don't like...we have chemistry with or we don't....but they are people.... I want you to next time that you see her think this way that she got to have lots of problems of her own...family issues, work related problems, money issues, love problems....she might be so frigile at the same time like any of us....and she might need a lot of help and support like any of us....forget about her attitude think about her as a person who has a life with probably lots of suffering even like all of us.... hope this helps.... people who gives us hard time in our life will make us to be a better person! |
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Apr 19, 2009, 01:21 AM
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Funny thing is another girl from my gym just told me that she was going to kick that girls *** if she didn't quit giving her dirty looks. (by the way.. it is a boxing gym so we like to fight there..lol). I think your right though.. she probably is suffering too. Thanks for your feedback. 
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Apr 19, 2009, 01:25 AM
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But.. it also bothers me that I let it bother me. I really shouldn't let her get under my skin but.. she does. |
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Apr 19, 2009, 03:41 AM
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Honestly... IGNORE HER - it really does work.... don't let her actions bring you down or interfere in your joy..... its all up to you - as Happiness is a State of Mind.
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Apr 19, 2009, 10:03 AM
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It sounds like she may have some self esteem issues and may feel more comfortable or validated by male attention. A lot of women who do this feel like they don't "get along" with other women or that other women are catty and jealous. I myself have a problem with this, although I don't act snobby towards other women I just feel more self conscious and for me that takes the form of being shy and anti-social which sometimes comes across to other women as being *****y or not wanting to talk to them. With men it's much easier for me to handle myself because if all else fails I can go straight to being flirtatious which comes much more naturally to me.
I would say ignore her and realize that she probably has issues just like everyone else. I've been there, I have met lots of women who are just plain mean or snobby but I have come to understand that it's probably less about me and more about their own insecurities. |
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