[healingme4me]

I have been seeing the same PDOC, since 2009. Since October 2012, I find myself well, more and more attracted to him every few weeks, when I go to check up on meds, etc.

When I go, the sessions, aside from discussing treatment, which is now just for my insomnia, he and I usually discuss books and mainly sports talk.

There's some non-verbal communication, i.e., body language, smiling engaging conversation surrounding hockey and basketball seasons, football/baseball too.

I've been divorced 3 years, this attraction has caught me by surprise. Alas, he does were a wedding band....

What to do, what to do?

[nicoleflynn]

Transference is available in most relationships.....that is the meaning in a nutshell. I have been divorced for 9 years...My t is married. Unfortunately (for me); it has become a personal relationship. I am also an undergraduate in the mental health field.

What to do? Only you can decide that. I decided to share my feelings for my t and he handled it professionally and delicately, but it was traumatic.

Usually a therapist knows/perceives of a clients' feelings for them. Mine did.

[Lauliza]

Originally Posted by healingme4me

I have been seeing the same PDOC, since 2009. Since October 2012, I find myself well, more and more attracted to him every few weeks, when I go to check up on meds, etc.

When I go, the sessions, aside from discussing treatment, which is now just for my insomnia, he and I usually discuss books and mainly sports talk.

There's some non-verbal communication, i.e., body language, smiling engaging conversation surrounding hockey and basketball seasons, football/baseball too.

I've been divorced 3 years, this attraction has caught me by surprise. Alas, he does were a wedding band....

What to do, what to do?

I have a similar situation with my pdoc. I've seen him since 2008 after separating. He was very supportive even suggesting a dating site, which he ended up on too after a month or so. It was awkward to say the least, and for the time being I have opted to work it out by telling my female therapist ( like you I see my pdoc for med management and support but not deep therapy), friends who don't mind listening and this great forum, which is very cathartic. For me, It came down to whether or not it was affecting treatment...are you holding back information in order to make a good impression? Are you becoming attached emotionally, opening yourself up to heartache? If so I think you should think about discussing it with your doc. Just be aware of what you want to accomplish before having any talk. He cannot date you so if that is what you want, it would be a better idea to talk to someone else first who might help you keep things in check. But, if it's harmless attraction/flirting that might brighten your day a little, but otherwise is harmless, you might not need to do anything at all. With a pdoc I find it a little murkier about what to do, since the work with them is not usually as emotionally intense as it is with a therapist. It makes it harder to find a natural way to approach the subject, I think. I hope this has helped, I know it is hard!

[healingme4me]

Thanks for the feedback, truly appreciated

Just coming here, and having a safe place, to at least voice my feelings, feels therapeutic.

I feel, I will just not say anything.

I haven't been holding back, trying to make an impression, per se. I've been honest with him, as far as, what has been going on for me, medically speaking.

What a weight off my shoulders then. Having your supportive, compassionate, words.